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Original poster

to be annoyed at my friend refusing to give my maternity clothes back

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NattyTurkeyAndEggnog · 09/12/2008 21:21

my friend recently moved house, and left my maternity clothes behind in her old house her uncle is now living in.
she is saying its too far to travel too to get me my clothes and that i have to buy them all again.

so now expecting my third and last baby i now have to buy a whole load of new clothes which will get hardly any wear out of them

AIBU to be throughly pee'd off?

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pregapuss · 09/12/2008 22:56

Surely nobody would be that stupid to sell stuff that they had borrowed?

TheButterflyEffect · 09/12/2008 23:14

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NattyTurkeyAndEggnog · 09/12/2008 23:26

oo yes please butterfly

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TheButterflyEffect · 09/12/2008 23:37

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NattyTurkeyAndEggnog · 09/12/2008 23:53

any chance it can wait till after ive moved? wont be here long enough i dont think, unless u can get it to be b4 mid week next week?

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noiamnot · 09/12/2008 23:55

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ShinyPinkShoes · 10/12/2008 00:00

I would text her telling her how much she owes you for the clothes.

TheButterflyEffect · 10/12/2008 02:25

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andlipsticktoo · 10/12/2008 19:09

I think it's a shame you have decided not to be friends any more, she may be telling the truth that they are in random bags under the staairs, and just be a bit disorganised and scatty. (like me)

I didn't get any of my maternity OR baby clothes back, but my friends have other qualities that make up for it.

alicet · 10/12/2008 22:26

Yes they may be in bags under the stairs and be a bit disorganised and may not have sold the lot on ebay.

But if that was the case surely you would go and get as many of them as you could find for your friend? Wouldn't you? Although the OP hasn't said how far away the uncle is (unless I missed that bit) but if it was me and someone had beenasking for their things back for a year i would make sure I had found the time at some point during that year to get them for her.

Agree with posters who have said to call her bluff and say you're going round or are sending a friend.

DaidiNaNollag · 10/12/2008 22:54

andlipsticktoo, I am scatty and disorganised but if my friend were pregnant and I could get her clothes back for her, I would go out of my way to do it. And the OP says that this is not the first time the "friend" has been less than helpful.

LongStory · 10/12/2008 23:00

My friend was very thoughtful and brought my clothes back - she wasn't to know that was the day my miscarriage with (not to be) no 3 started. We laugh about it now!

DaidiNaNollag · 11/12/2008 14:34

Oh dear Longstory! What bad timing!

beanieb · 11/12/2008 14:37

Ask your friend for the uncle's phone number.

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NattyTurkeyAndEggnog · 11/12/2008 14:38

yeah butterfly i cant button anything up on my fat clothes, and i have nothing to wear and no money till the 23rd.
im gonna have to go maternity clothes shopping 2 days b4 christmas can u imagine? i had a loverly dress i wanted to wear for xmas day in the bag i gave her grrr

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Earlybird · 11/12/2008 14:45

Just curious.... when she says it is 'too far to travel' - how far is her old house from her new house?

And how far is the old house (where clothes are) from where you live now?

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NattyTurkeyAndEggnog · 11/12/2008 14:53

old house i not far from me atm, but like i said she claims its all in random bags and uncle cant look for it she has too.
new house is about 30mins away on a bus? she is being lazy

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lipstickjungle · 11/12/2008 14:55

hey, dont you think thats just an excuse maybe she cant tell you the clothes are now washed out, skanky, torn or full of marks.

charliegal · 11/12/2008 14:57

I feel for you. This happened to my friend- she lent all her beautiful maternity clothes (some of them from Formes!) to a friend.

She kept asking and asking for them back as she was ttc and then eventually pregnant. The friend finally admitted she had 'lost' them and offered her £40. The nerve.

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NattyTurkeyAndEggnog · 11/12/2008 15:02

yeah my friend wont part with any money unfortunatly.
sighs oh well, will have to buy more, i hate maternity clothes shopping, there never anything decent out there.
i said to DH we have to have another now, to get the moneys worth out the clothes lol

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DaidiNaNollag · 11/12/2008 15:10

try online. Much better than traipsing around shops and usually better value too!

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NattyTurkeyAndEggnog · 11/12/2008 15:19

yeah i will do but need clothes to get me over the christmas relatives season

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Lakota · 11/12/2008 15:32

You don't need her Ebay ID - you could do a search on 'completed items' and see if you could find them that way. eg. 'Blooming Marvelous Black Maternity Trousers size 12' and then look for other items sold by same seller!

If you have a couple of free hours that is ...

phraedd · 11/12/2008 15:40

you could tell her that you will go to the uncles and you will sort through the bags so that the uncle doesn't have to

See what she says to that

morningpaper · 11/12/2008 15:46

YANBU to be annoyed, YABU to say "she is no longer a friend, and have removed her from my phone facebook and messenger"

It's just clothes, life's too short to stress about that sort of thing. I've given my maternity clothes to friends and have never assumed I would get them back.

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