.... to wish total strangers would NOT comment on my parenting skills ........

[asdastressedmumoftwo]

Completely prepared for you lot to criticise me, so here goes !!
Went to asda today to get photos printed and have a wander while waiting. DD1, 2.4yrs decided she wanted to walk, so since wasn't doing a shop conceded and put DD2, 3 mths in pram (normally both would be in trolley). Anyway, DD1 decided to try on some wellies (size 7 adlt !), DD2 then decided to start crying. DD1 wouldn't put her own shoes back on, so I couldn't pick up DD2 as had to carry DD1 (confusded yet ?). As I went round the corner of the aisle on my way back to car, a lady stopped me and said "haven't you got a dummy for her, she NEEDS a dummy" !! I was so shocked I couldn't think of any reply quick enough. I don't like dummies and DD2 certainly doesn't "NEED" one.

Would have loved to have told the interfering bag to go wherever, but also wonder if I could have handled it all differen tly.

Feel like a bit of a crap mummy really, bt am I being unreasonable ??

An old lady who lived down the road from me used to say dd needed a dummy. She never whinged for more than about 30 seconds before she went to sleep and was never really crying!

I was really quite proud of my big sister one time when we were out shopping. My nephew, who was about 3 or 4 at the time was having a tantrum because she wouldn't let him go on one of those bloody rides that are always outside supermarkets. (He had already been on one, and she had used up her change).

He started having a right strop so after much cajouling, in the end my sister had to pick him up and drag him away from the thing. (Not violently you understand though. )We got so far up the street and this old busy body started talking really loudly about my sister to another lady and saying things like "poor little soul, have you seen her with that kid etc. . "

She got the shock of her life when my Sis said to her "What the hell is up with your face??? For your information he is having a tantrum cos he can't go on that ride! Not that its any of your bloody business in the first place!!!!" The look on this woman's face was priceless and I couldn't stop laughing for ages afterwards! Love it when people stand up to the busy bodies!!

YANBU

i am old hand at this mothering lark and i get comments all the time

'oooh his hands are cold' ( well stop manhandling him then)

being one of the most recent

its downright RUDE

actually in the snow the other day stood chatting with my pram an old lady walked sort of round me and ds and our chateee - i swear she said 'bitch' ( she was over 80) but dp said i misheard her and she was 'mental anyway!'

OTOH - a man said he "thoroughly approved" that I was letting DD and DS play in a large muddy puddle in the park.

I was rather pleased! Why did I care?

Morningtownride - Nothing better than muddy puddles though is there? Just ask Peppa Pig!!!

Was walking round Sainsbury's with my 3 week old in a sling and I got told by an old woman that I'd 'be betetr off with a pram as they're much more practical and comfortable'.

Resisted the urge to bop her over the head with my french loaf.

I'm no ageist/sexist, but ()...It's usually old women isn't it? Let's be honest.

morningtownride

you are right - when i get compliments i bask!

wintera - dcs were playing in the same puddle today. A woman walked past and muttered something about "all that washing". I replied that dh would do it while laughing maniacally.
well, he would, really. He's a SAHD.

Haven't discovered PP yet. Any good?

God I hate it when people do this sort of thing.
When ds was about 3 weeks old, me and dp went to supermarket for food shop, ds was in car seat on the trolley and he was really crying, but he was always crying. Anyway this woman said to her friend, "They really shouldn't bring a baby out when IT is in that sort of state" I was quite bad and turned to her and said "Well I've got to f**king eat!" Probably shouldn't have reacted like that but who do these people think they are?
Now resigned to the fact that it's lways gonna happen and I'm not gonna be a perfect mum like these interfering old battle-axes!

Oh I'm always being told DD needs a dummy - she hates them, as does DH so that's the end of that.

The first time I got old biddy nonsense was when DD started crying in the pram in the street - it was raining and I was rushing her down the street to get her to a cafe to feed her.

"Give that poor baby something to eat"

shouted some old crone.

Because I'm just going to stop in the street in the pouring rain and whip out my boob

used to get tols dd needed a dummy but I hate them and was determined not to use one. v irritating , I hate the way they get literally shoved into poor kids mouths and then when they spit them out shoved again, like gagging the baby. Horrible.

YANBU BTW!

I got asked if DD1 was a boy on a bus, she was wearing yellow with pink flowers and when I smiled and said no she's not a boy, I got told she looked like a boy
I will never, ever be like these women ever, DH has instruction to shoot me at the first hint.

yanbu, but why on earth are you asking this particular question of a million strangers on mn???

I'm not into this fighting rudeness with rudeness. A lady asked me at the swimming pool "what's wrong with you?". (Goodness only knows what great mistake I had make) and I smiled and said "I'm so sorry if I upset you, I hope you have a super day".

A man approached me after my pupil concert to give me some advice and I smiled and said "that's such a good idea - I hope you have a super day".

I like the super day bit. I really do hope that they have a super day, and don't just go around hurting people's feelings.

With the dummy situation I would have gone for "I'll bear it in mind - have a super day".

It takes two people to have an argument.

Two old ladies were really moaning about me as I got on the bus with my double buggy last week. Amonst other things they said

It is a health hazard

She doesn't care about anybody but myself

It's always the young ones (pmsl I'm not AT ALL young)

When I had little children I never went out (I was picking my dd1 up from school) I normally walk 2 miles but that day I wanted to get the bus home.

I stared at them in shock whilst they talked about me.

I like your super day, I am normally mute with shock, and need a response because I sense that they are bullies and need to be shown that it's not working.

Will get the bus on Monday just waiting for somebody to be horrid, so I can tell them to have a super day.

yanbu.and dont sound like a crap mummy either so push that thought away!
stupid woman.

Nighbynight why not?

well, she's just asked a million strangers to comment if she is being unreasonable to wish that total strangers would not comment on her parenting skills.....

Morningtownride - My little girl loves Peppa pig so of course I get to watch it all the time. The Pig family's fav thing is jumping in muddy puddles! Thats why I mentioned it. Give it a go, its quite good.

Like your super day idea twenty pence - will bear that one in mind.

The trouble is people like this always catch you on the day the washing machine's broken, DH is working late, the kids all have colds, you've lost your house keys etc etc and it's dead hard not to punch them nevermind wish them a super day !

Have you noticed how it's always people without children who comment?!

I've got all this to look forward to, being as I'm going to have a newborn and a 15 month old to entertain soon - I'll have to start practising mouthing "F*ck Off!" x

Lady was getting on bus today with buggy, I let her go ahead of me and helped her on (driver had parked at funny angle) Man behind me said to me "take your time why dont you" so I turned around and did this he must have thought I didnt hear so he repeated except with eh??? at the end. So I said "Thanks thats kind of you"

hahaha I pissed him off more. Bet he has never had to get a buggy and a child on to an akwardly parked bus.