To think that DP shouldn't leave droppings around?

[SweetChildOMine]

I have not been with my DP for long but he has begun staying here on a friday night. He told me he has problems with his bowels and his doctor has ordered him to collect his own droppings and send them for tests for a month.

When I went into the bathroom on Friday night there was a poo log wrapped up in tissue beside the toilet. I didn't want to cause a row with him but I have DD to think about and thought this was horrible. He said he has no choice, the doctor said he "has to" do it.

I said I didn't want him to do it here. Saturday morning I found it behind the bathroom door. I only knew because it was underneath the radiator and the whole bathroom stunk of it.

AIBU to ask him not to stay here until this has been sorted out?

Does he not have sample pots to put them in?

You are joking right????

surely he would have a tupperware pot or similar to put it in to seal off the smell.

It's not hygienic to leave poo lying around.

That is unbelievably disgusting.

OMG! YAsoooooNBU!!! Is this a joke?

Oh no !

No no no no.... H does not have to leave it lying around.

If this is for real YANBU to ask for poos not to be left lying sround.

Yes yes yes, very funny!

ds used to hide his poo when we were potty training him. We'd smell something gross and then had to hunt around to find out where he'd deposited it!

ewww. I have had to give a stool sample for dd1 once. You get sterile pots and they don't need the whole poo just a little bit.

YANBU. At all.

there is no way doctor would ask him to give samples without providing pots . Cross contamination would make it pointless otherwise.

Leaving shit around and under a radiator ffs is just a bit weird. Actually is very weird.

It's not a joke. I wish it was. I was beginning to feel mean as he said I was embarrassing him but I'd NEVER leave poo around like that, in my own house or in anyone elses. Its disgusting, no matter what the reason for it.

He said he had a little pot with a spatula thing in that he was supposed to disect the poo with and put the bits in the tube. That's why he poos onto tissue so that its ready to dig but he didn't bring the spatula thing with him so was saving them up for when he went home.

Surely he doesn't need to do it with every poo? and for a month? is he having me on?

Like others have said, that's NOT how you collect poo samples. Sterile pot, small quantity. Either there is something seriously odd going on with him, or he needs to get his doctor to explain things to him again...

Can he not just go home and get it? How was he planning on getting all his 'saved up' poo home?

oops, X-posts with you SCOM. Still sounds odd to me, and I still think he must have got it a bit wrong - every single poo, even if he has not container with him? No, I can't believe that.

That's what I couldn't work out, by Saturday night he'd collected 3 logs and wrapped them in toilet paper. I said to him "won't they have the paper stuff on now anyway making them useless to examine?" and he said "no because when I get home, I cut them in half and dig part of the poo from the middle of the log".

Its making me feel sick just thinking about it. How could anyone sit there and dig away at human poo?

Its really got me in a state tbh because this is the first 'bad' thing that has come up about him and I've only just started letting him get closer to DD at a really bad time in her life. I don't want to blow it out of proportion but its not normal behaviour is it?

DROPPINGS?
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It's shit or poo. Not droppings he's not a flipping mouse!

if his poo is so easily contained and wrapped up then there can't be too much wrong with his bowels surely? Obv that not medical diagnosis but the sort of issues they require a month of samples would surely create more,rem, visible issues?

Who the hell is his GP? Gillian mckeith?

It is possible he's been asked to collect his poo for a month. And it is feasible that he is not pooing in the toilet, but on tissue paper to make it easier to collect the poo. Feasible also that some of the poo dropped onto the floor by your radiator.

Sooooo, if it is for real. I would definitely tell him that he cannot stay round at yours until it's sorted. Is this the guy you met online btw?

It's vile and if he doesn't realise that, then there is something seriously wrong with the man.

It sound very normal to me.

"no because when I get home, I cut them in half and dig part of the poo from the middle of the log".

Now you've gone silly again. First you describe them as droppings and now as logs.

If this is true, then your dp is clearly deranged. You need to spend time with your dd, giving her plenty of attention and tlc as according to one of your threads, her dad died just over a month ago didn't he? Don't waste your time with this man.

PMSL I am sorry but that is shit funny no pun intended

YANBU I would tell him sorry my home is not a shit hole for you to stash your poo

PMSL I am sorry but that is shit funny no pun intended

YANBU I would tell him sorry my home is not a shit hole for you to stash your poo

if real then fucking weird.
i know of no medical test that requires collection of logs of poo. run for the hills and tell him nevr to contact you again.

Does he call them 'Mr Hankey' by any chance? After all, he is the Christmas poo!