To not want to go out to dinner on a week night?

[Anna8888]

We get endless invitations to dinner parties on a week night. While we manage to fend many of them off, some people are so persistent that we end up having to accept. I don't want to go out at 8.15 pm, eat dinner between 9.30 and 11 pm and not get to bed until half past midnight on a week night when we have to get up for work/school at 7 am. It KILLS me, and the dinners are unbelievably tedious.

AIBU?

No you ANBU. We avoid any socialising in the week like the plague. DH's alarm is set for 6am Mon to Fri. He rarely gets home before 7.30pm. Just say no thank you!

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If they are tedious, why go? I think it would be fair enough to say sorry but we only socialise on a weekend. Do the people inviting you have kids also? I very occasionally go out on a girls night or something during the week but rarely. I can't imagine going to someone's house for dinner though!

Thanks . I am feeling horribly cross today as I have to go to dinner with a particularly unpleasant couple

If you don't want to go then stand firm and say so......Lucky you to be asked though.........

Sorry just read the last bit that you dont like them! Poor old you!((((((()))))))))

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I stand firm so often you wouldn't believe it. We really get a lot of invitations.

But sometimes it just seems impossibly rude not to go.

The unpleasant couple are relatives of my DP. So the relationship isn't going to go away...

Ah that's a tricky one then. Not a lot you can do about relatives.

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Oh dear that MUST be a bore.

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Can't you say that you won't go in the week but will at weekend?

Why do you have friends you don't like? Just tell them
" Oi you boring French bourjois twat"

christiana - am contemplating feigning illness

Just bleat "Look I am a wet English poof and we eat around 5.30 and are then in bed at 9"

surely they will understand

bozza - I know, it's sounds so easy but telling people here that you don't socialise in the week is unbelievably weird. Lots of people socialise every night.

You are clearly deficient in this area. Take some red bull along.

Where are you?

We sometimes get invited, persistently, to things we don't want to do. Our cunning plan is to turn it around... "Oh, I'm so sorry, we simply can't do that. However, we'd love to see you so perhaps we could meet for a drink next Wednesday before the [insert appropriate thing here]"?

It doesn't always work and we sometimes get sucked in nonetheless but it works enough that I keep using it!

Paris.

I make endless excuses. But some people (typically the unpleasant ones with really thick skins) never give up...

I feel your pain.

If Charles and Camilla invite us over for kitchen sups once more midfrickingweek I shall have to overthrow the monarchy.

Just KEEP making excuses

If they are unpleasant then you don't really CARE if they are offended, surely?

They can't actually come and tie you up and drag you off

No say
" Its a school night "

I don't care.

But they are friends and relatives of my DP, and he cares. Grrrrrrrrrr.