To not want to go out to dinner on a week night?

[Anna8888]

We get endless invitations to dinner parties on a week night. While we manage to fend many of them off, some people are so persistent that we end up having to accept. I don't want to go out at 8.15 pm, eat dinner between 9.30 and 11 pm and not get to bed until half past midnight on a week night when we have to get up for work/school at 7 am. It KILLS me, and the dinners are unbelievably tedious.

AIBU?

Well you are not HE!
Say to him "Monsieur, wiht these invitations you are ruining me"

Have you tried Relate?

It is simple, just say 'thankyou but I don't go out mid-week' and it will be put down to foreign idiosyncrasies. Your dh can go by himself if he wants.

For what exactly?

For your relationship difficulties of course!

Your REAL problem is "My DH keeps accepting dinner party invitations during the week with people I hate!"

You see, the problem is with your DH

You need to STAND UP FOR YOURSELF

I agree, just pretend to be a crazy English woman

Carmenere - no-one really realises I'm not French - I don't look or sound "foreign"...

I can see the headlines now

"English woman under French man's thumb"

"her story of how she tried to break free"

" read about her FORCED dinner party hell"

So you attend all these dinner parties and NO ONE HAS DISCOVERED THE FIRST THING ABOUT YOU?

They probably won't even notice if you don't turn up to be frank

No MP - he refuses 98% of the invitations spontaneously. I am talking about 2% of what we get.

His exW goes out EVERY single night of the week except for the nights she has a personal trainer. This is completely normal behaviour round here.

Well get with it then lady!

MP - they notice if you don't turn up. But there is never, ever any personal conversation. That's a golden rule. See why they are tedious???????

Just say no Anna (as Zammo once said)

Gosh.

The French sound quite dreadful.

Perhaps it is time for a new husband?

lol
Sorry Anna for laughing but c'mon, you have posted about this 'problem' before, it was your mil if I remember correctly. Just say no thankyou. It is fairly black and white, if you don't want to go you don't have to. Tell them you are foreign(or are you keeping that secret?)

IAmNotHere - not all French people. But a lot of them, yes, they are vile.

My DH would never accept a dinner invitation without asking me first as I am KEEPER OF THE SOCIAL DIARY

They notice if you aren't there but NOT that you may not be French?
Blimey.
try farting.

My DP would never accept an invitation without asking me first, either (and vice versa). It's when he is asked for a date for dinner for about the tenth time that he doesn't feel able to refuse. And I don't either. But God I hate it.

I think Anna is fearful that if she reveals her english credentials they will expect a night of binge drinking and deep fried mars bars.

Lots of the people around us aren't French born and bred, though - or their parents. They are naturalised.

You need to let them know you are English. Wear lots of tweed and put on a lot of weight and wander around with a brace of pheasant under your arm. Say "What ho chaps!" a lot. Invite them all for le ros bif on a Sunday. Make it clear that you have jam sandwiches and cake at 5.30 every night and then go to bed, to save the candles. Job done!