to hav made my mother cry, she told my dd off for making a happy shriek and said to was a horrid noise....

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so i told her not to tell my dd off for making a happy squel,as her singing is horrible but we have to put up with that horrid noise.

then she starts crying ffs

If your DD is 18, then yes you were unreasonable

You didn't have to tell her her singing was horrible but she shouldn't have told your DD off.

Sounds like a complete over-reaction all round!

My IL told my nephew off for makig monster noises - he is only 4.5 shed have a fit because we always play 'monsters' in our house DS is into monster inc and ghostbuster at mo. I think if it was in the house or a 'play area' then its perfectly normal for children to make noise when playing. When in public places like a coffee shop i do quieten my DS down as he has to learn to repsect other peoples space so to speak

Yeah over reaction hope you DD ok

Depends on how old your dd is.

My ds was still into happy squeals after he had started school and frankly everybody's tolerance was wearing a bit thin. I didn't really appreciate it until my mother had serious words, but thinking it over I can see that if you are elderly and getting a bit tired, there is only so much happy squealing you can cope with in a day.

If your dd is a toddler, then you may need to ration your Mum's exposure a bit. But tit-for-tat is never going to be an answer.

she is only 18months ffs.
how could anyone tell off a 18month old for happy squeling.

then start sobbing for 45 mins.
for heavens sake.

It sounds as if your mother might have problems that she hasn't told you about. It was a complete over reaction-if it was me I would look into it further and find the real cause.

You do know the toxic police will be round soon don't you?

she has told my dd off for squeling before.
its not an angry or a naughty squel its a haappy laughing noise.
when she is being good and playing.

what's the toxic police?

so whata shall i say next time she tell sdd off for doing this?
wwyd?

YANBU, i would have said the same.
but it does seem like there might be more to this.

Have some cake.
Move on.

yanbu at all!! if it happens again (hopefully it wont as you brought her up on it this time) then just say "I dont want you to tell dd off for being happy" end of.

what an over-reaction!!

maybe shes thinking children should be seen and not heard.

I think it was a bit mean to insult her singing
But telling your dd off was mean too
Is yer ma of a very nervous disposition?

YANBU for telling her not to tell DD off, but you could and should have left it at that as YABU to insult her in return.

Blimey. It depends on how long and loud the 'happy squeal' was. Happy or not it can be a bit wearing after a while.

You sound more angry that your mum was crying than concerned for her. If my mum cried for 45 mins I'd want to know why. Don't you?

well shes said to her many times in the past
NO SQUELLING!

and its been pissing me off, so when she sais no squeling its a horrid noise it annoyed me somewhat.

what other names are there for it other than squeling ?

18 months- that's ridiculous, what does she expect? Where is the point in saying that to an 18 month old?

A pity that you were not able to deal with it in a positive manner and all that- but she does have strange ideas.

What exactly did you say to your mother, and in what tone of voice? I think that will help work out what is behind the crying. Did she stay with you for the 45 minutes of crying? Did you apologize?

is it that high pitched scream, drives me up the wall, i quite often say to my granchildren-no whining,whinging,shreaking or screaming, or you can all go home,and i bloody mean it to, not at 18 months tho..still train em young and all that

Sounds like there is more to it than her just being upset because she is has an awful singing voice, is there something else bothering her? maybe you should ask her?

i know as if dd even understand what she is saying.

ok how could i have handled it better

It was completely unnecessary to insult your mother.

Hi vt! Thinking of going to the meet up, can you go to the thread on it so I can ask you stuff? X

yabu
and childish