MIL doesn't like me for no apparent reason.
Anyway, she smokes like a chimney and has asked my DP if she can have DS over night. He said she can't smoke in the bedroom and asked me and I said no because a)she co-sleeps which I am not having. B) she smokes so much that the house stinks, it's in every fibre. It's not ok for my son to be around that. So she gets SIL to ask me and I said not until she stops smoking. She has him in day time but I don't want him there getting all cot-deathed by her smoke at night.
Anyway, she's wearing a white dress to our small wedding of 16 people. Great.
DP and I said we wouldn't spoil the surprise so he wasn't to know anything. No colours, nothing. We made this into a big thing and told everyone not to tell him as it was a huge surprise. I told MIL this. When SIL came to get fitted for her bridesmaid dress I asked her not to tell ANYONE the colour and she said she wouldnt.
We went for the final fittings today. DP went to visit MIL and came home saying 'oh I absolutely love the colour --- for a bridesmaid dress'. Which happens to be the correct colour. He even said the shade!! This colour runs through the whole wedding. SIL wouldn't have been able to help herself telling MIL but why did MIL have to tell DP just to spite me? Why does she have to try and ruin every aspect of the wedding?
She told us to have it abroad, so we booked it abroad and then she said she wasn't going. DP was upset to eventually she said she was going but goes on about how she's doing us such a big favour by going. MY parents also wanted us to do it abroad and they're even paying for us and the actual wedding package which is over £2000. They're the one's we are really grateful to.
Why is she trying to ruin my wedding? I'm not a Bridezilla, but I'd like her to respect my wishes and have some respect for me, DP and DS. Is that so wrong?