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to not want to come home from a day's work to face an hour or more of homework?

114 replies

jasper · 20/11/2008 22:26

Serves me right for having 3 kids in 3 years I suppose.

It is just such an unwanted added source of stress in the evenings

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LadyLauraStandish · 21/11/2008 12:07

Mine see it as something they have to suffer.

Really they are tired after school and just want a rest but if they do that, there isn't enough time to do the bl$$dy homework.

swanriver · 21/11/2008 12:25

Marge2 I think you should REFUSE to complete DS1 homework. Put your foot down. Tell them you want to concentrate on reading only. I'm going to refuse to do any more sentences with barely writing DS2 in year 2 and insist that he only does handwriting practice. Say you will review situation in a few months. Poor teacher is probably just giving everyone in class same work, and won't mind if you personalise ds's learning plan. Some parents are probably complaining that their children aren't being challenged.

TheLadyEvenstar · 21/11/2008 12:31

DS1 is 10yrs old and has Maths, and Litracey on a monday to be completed for Tuesday,
Tuesday he has Maths, Science and Topic to be back in wendnesday,
Wednesday he has Litracey, Reading Journal and Science
Thursday
Science, Maths, english, and Topic
Friday maths club until 5 then home to do maths, english, litracey, and science to be back in on monday.

starbear · 21/11/2008 12:48

Emm not looking forward to this. My Ds is only 4 and I'm already worrying. My mother God love her, English is not her first language and we believe our side of the family have dyslexia. So the homework won't be done until I get home which will be around 6-6.30pm if they expect homework the next day we are going to have some tears. I work three days a week so if they let us return it the following week we can work on it earlier on my day off or the weekends. I can see this putting my boy off from school but he loves learning and speaks Spanish with Nan.

countingto10 · 21/11/2008 13:08

Hate homework with a passion. Have 4 DSs, two with ASD. I was complaining to deputy head at DS3's (ASD Y1) school that I found it extremely hard to get him to do anything school related at home (to him school is schoo - home is home). I also complained about the amount DS2 (Y4) was getting as well as it is always the parents who end up doing it. She told me to remember that homework was not compulsory in first and middle schools (she totally agreed with me and was on my side).
Whilst on the subject of school, my sister's DD is due to take her 11 yr old SATS, she has mild learning difficulties and the school have told my sister that they are not putting her in for the maths SAT because she won't cope with it - I didn't think that was allowed ?

TheLadyEvenstar · 21/11/2008 13:15

Counting, the schools can and do take children out of sats if they feel they can't cope with them.

TsarChasm · 21/11/2008 13:16

I wonder if so many parents have such strong feelings, why we aren't being heard on this.

smartiejake · 21/11/2008 13:20

Countingto10- yes schools can disapply children from taking SATs if they beilieve that the child will not achieve the mimimum level 3 at the end of KS2.

They will report a teachers assessment level and the figures still have to go towards the league table results.

countingto10 · 21/11/2008 13:33

Thanks for that smartiejake, will tell sister. My DS1 who goes to a special school still took SATS.

nappyaddict · 21/11/2008 14:53

Those people that think homework should be banned for children aged 4-11 does that include reading at home as well and things like handwriting practice?

nooka · 21/11/2008 18:36

Different schools and different teachers set such variable amounts that it makes me wonder what evidence there is to suggest the value of homework. Our English primary got very shirty with dh when he said that ds shouldn't be punished (at aged 7) for not handing in all his homework (silly sod he forgot it was in his bag). He said if anyone should be punished it was the parents, as few seven year olds are self motivated to do homework without parental support (nagging, bullying etc). The teacher gave him a copy of the homework policy which stated that he purpose of homework was to get children ready for the workplace. At SEVEN! I thought this was absolutely ridiculous, apart from the fact that as working parents we do not have homework (at least not from work).

Learning spellings for weekly tests also seems to be a matter of debate - the US teachers thought it was a very odd idea, and the school had excellent literacy rates.

Reading I think is a good thing, but I preferred the approach of the US school, where they had boxes of real books all grade by the teacher, the child picks something they like the look of, and that's the reading book. They had a little log for home, with a couple of questions for the child to complete every night (like what is the main idea of the story, or what do you think will happen next), which the parent has to sign. Books from home were allowed too, so long as they weren't very different in reading level (ie no picture books for dd as she should be reading chapter books).

The only thing we liked about the US homework is that it was every night, so that you could work out a routine time for homework, and that it had to be given in every day so it couldn't be put off. I think it is useful for parents to know what their children are doing at school, but that the work should be set at a minimum level (say two topics, each with a single worksheet taking about half an hour). I can't see the point of stressing children and parents out when they should be spending enjoyable time together (I tell my staff that taking time off to recharge their batteries is more important than working late because they will be more productive the next day - I would have thought this applied to children too).

nooka · 21/11/2008 18:36

Oh, and we've never had handwriting practice set.

jasper · 21/11/2008 22:29

my sister has just emailed me to say this is a good reason to send kids to boarding school

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pointydog · 21/11/2008 23:10

indeed, why bpother speaking to them at all

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