to find it a bit irritting that my nextdoor neighbour keeps ordering stuff online, even though shes never there to collect it, and i keep getting woken by the postman

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and taking in all her christmas shopping.
she actually told me after picking up the last one she was doing all her xmas shopping on the internet.

i would turn bell of at mains and put a note on the door saying no more post to be collected for neighbours. is there someone on the other side who is likely t be around but up? if you ahve the opportunity for lie in it is not fair it should be interrupte. i would be furious. yanbu

Here they are:

www.hippo-box.co.uk/hippo_default.aspx?pg=h1

www.parcelpod.appliedstorageproducts.co.uk/

not so good if you live in a terraced house though

Its not your neighbours fault that you are getting the deliveries, its the postman/delivery mans fault. I doubt she is telling all the various companies to leave at your house if she is out.

I shop online all the time and know there are days I may not be in to take the delivery but thats part of the risk.

Cant see the problem myself in taking in parcels, 8am is a perfectly reasonable time to be up. I imagine the delivery person feels neighbours would be fine with taking in parcels and helping others - obviously there are exceptions to this as in your case.

sorry didn't read the whole thread but you could put a sign on your door - near the doorbell - saying do not knock/ring bell before 8.30
4wiw I don't think you are being unreasonable that you don't want to be woken up to take in other people's parcels - especially on a regular basis. However, I also don't think it's your neighbour's fault.

crossed post with Mrs Pickles - who said it much better

our postie comes at 7 am
YANBU imo but you need to either tell neighbour or postie

Bloody hell, there are some revolting replies on this thread. Disagree with the OP by all means, but do we really have to be so nasty? It's perfectly easy to post disagreeing without resorting to bitchy name-calling.

Songbird, just ask the postman not to bring them to you anymore. He's probably only bringing them to you because you've taken them in for her before and he thinks you're OK with it. If you won't take them in for her, he will either find someone else in the street who will, or put a card through her letterbox.

Write a note to stick on your door asking not to be disturbed when you don't want the doorbell ringing, and put a note across the doorbell saying "Out Of Order".

If I (or DS2 who is easily woken) are in bed during the day, I frequently stick a note saying so on the door. Then if the postie comes at that time, things just get left at the side gate.

Can understand you being annoyed by the postie knocking, but don't think it's really the neighbours fault.

I agree with Happymummyofone. It's hardly her fault that the postman leaves the packages with you.
Just because I'm at work during the day, it doesn't stop me ordering stuff from the internet. I always assume I'll be left a card through the door to rearrange delivery or collection.
If a neighbour sometimes has my parcel, then that's a bonus for me, but I'd never assume this would happen.
I think, as it is disturbing you and the baby, a note on the bell asking for the postman not to ring before a certain time should work perfectly. The postman will either find another neighbour to take the parcel or will return it to the local office.
So YANBU to be annoyed about being woken, but YABU to blame your neighbour for something she can't control.

Lol shitehawk - I think you're forgeting firstly you're on mumsnet where's there's a small but spirited population of people who only come on here so they can get all high and mighty and argue and disagree and be downright obnoxious and nasty in ways they'd never get away with in real life - and secondly you're on an AIBU board where most of them loiter most of the time

Clearly I'm not one of them and am nice to everyone all the time - hormones notwithstanding

YABU to be pissed of at her about this. It is the postman who is doing this - she hasn't asked!!! If it is annoying you (and I can completley understand why) then next time just tell him that you don't want him to knock on your door with neighbours parcels as if you are in you are asleep.

Personally if I am in bed I just don't answer the door to anyone.

I am a hospital doctor with two under 4's, working shifts, trying to get my shopping done without dragging my poor offspring (and DH) round the shops at the weekends. My lovely neighbour has taken in quite a few parcels for me, and will get a very nice bottle of wine at Christmas.

(Sorry if I've spoilt that surprise for you if you're my lovely neighbour - but I doubt it!)

But I also remember when DD was small being very annoyed when people knocked on the door if there was any chance of 10 minutes kip.

So - I am on the fence. ICDIYABU.

Is the OP interested in our views? I think not.

YANBU I would be v pissed off too.
Im sorry but with all the sleepless nights that come with being a parent i dont get up til my DCs do,whether thats 6 am or 8.30 am!

YANBU I would be v pissed off too.
Im sorry but with all the sleepless nights that come with being a parent i dont get up til my DCs do,whether thats 6 am or 8.30 am!

Our postie was coming c.3 times a week with very large parcels for someone across the road (not even close neighbours). They never came to collect them. DH would have to take it over each weekend in several loads and it was literally taking over our dining room. After about a month of acting as a storage depot and having breastfeeding constantly interrupted I told postie I could not take any more in. It was getting silly and neighbour never said thank you.

OP, I'd tell the postie to knock on someone else's door.