To want to throw in the towel on friend's wedding

[Jun]

I normally lurk....so here goes.

I'm supposed to be going to a childfree wedding in 1.5 weeks. DD is coming up to 5 months and it is all turning into such a mission, AIBU to be considering not going on the grounds that:

1. I have absolutely nothing to wear that fits me (admittedly this is my on fault) and will have to spend a lot on an outfit to wear possibly only once.
2. Trying to shop with DD for said outfit is nigh on impossible. Either I can't get the pram in the changing rooms or she gets really upset at the crucial moment (has limited attention span for being in pram not moving).
3. And the biggie, despite having bottles of expressed milk every week, last weekend DD repeatedly refused to take a bottle so having to try desperately to get her back on to it (which I would do anyway).
4. I'm going to have to express like some kind of prize milker to build up my stock in the freezer (depleted after weekends refusals) and to have milk to keep offering her the bottle.

Wedding is 1.5 hours drive away so I will not be able to feed her during the day, will have to leave about 10am, express throughout the day and stay sober so I can drive back at night (DP and I do not feel comfortable to leave her overnight just yet). So AIBU just to want to give in or should I be pulling out all the stops to attend a lovely friend's day?

I went to a friend's wedding when DS1 was about 8 weeks old. Can't remember if it was child free or not, but I left him nearby with a family friend. Fab all round, until my boobs exploded and I dribbled everywhere.

I have just declined an invite to my cousin's wedding for roughly the same reasons as you, Jun. We're not close, havent seen him for years and was only invited to evening do anyway.

I declined because:

• DS2 is bf and cant be left
• am now too fat for my prepregnancy/bf clothes
• wedding is about 2 hours drive away.
• i can't drink anyway because bf and driving
• DP is working away at the moment and couldnt come so would have to drive there by myself leaving kids with CM

I really don't think my cousin will miss me

Not read the whole thread but I would ask your mum to come with your and your DD and they can play around the hotel all day. Then you can pop out and feed her when she needs it. And if you are very luck, and bribe her appropriately, granny might drive home .

I would, of course, let my friend know this is the plan, but gently!