To Think That Some MNs Take Things To Far!

[juicyjolly]

I am new to mumsnet (to finally getting the courage to post something)and I realise I might be in for a bit of a bashing but here goes:
I have been visiting the site for quite some time now, just reading about different problems and the advice that is given.
So far no problem.

That is until someone actually writes something that some of you disagree with, or you seem to just take the view that it is someone pissing about.
Now the problem with that it seems to me, is that a few of you seem quite thrilled to respond to these posts (I think thats what they are called) with lightening speed and seem to relish the fact that you can insult and abuse this post as long as it keeps you amused!

I even suspect that some MNs have one rule for some and another rule for others. How can anyone justify this? It seems very hypocritical of what the site is all about.
In fact, as I have read many different posts and learnt some of the more colourful nicknames I can see a sort of bullying going on! I am pretty sure some of you know this is true!

So, there it is, my first post, and I am actually nervous about the sort of responses I will get back.Lol.

Some of this OP is very true, some of OP is a little true some of OP is bull-shit.

Welcome to Mumsnet juicyjolly.

ifyouarenotanamechanger

oh i feel more of a sense of obligation to disagree if they're my friend, iykwim? to be fair.

It seems to me that most internet communities seem to behave in the same way: once they have been up and running for a while they develop their own jargon and set of in-jokes to help everyone feel like a cohesive group. Then after another little while, the people who have been there for the longest start complaining about the quality of the newbies and saying that everything is not as good as it used to be. Thin-skinned newbies will always struggle with the perceived "cliqueyness" of the forum, until they have stopped taking everything personally. And trolls are just a given. An open forum like this where people post under pseudonyms is just a gift to trolls. Like every forum there is good stuff here and not so good stuff, depending on your interests and point of view. Enjoy the good, ignore the bad.

really, rabbit? in what way?

Coolma I see ya post.

OP with the bullying thing I am not sure what post's you have been reading? Some post's get very heated espeically in AIBU but I wouldn't say it was bullying.

Troll threads also get a bit grieve but that's why Troll's start them threads.

YABU to start a thread judging and telling us how Mumsnet should be.

As for the oldies I am sure plenty of people disagree with them.

So the way to go is a sh*t sandwich - something really nice about MN, then the horrible bit you dont like and then something really nice at the end so no-one notices the shitty thing you said in the middle and most ignore that bit and so it goes on

Ivy44

well yes, i take more notice of the people on here i like..even if they are telling me i'm being a complete pain in the arse...which i know i can be.

nonsense, dp, you're a darling.

I posted a question, nothing more. I assume there are no rules as to how your first post should go.

Aitch..why would you start on about 'whining'.I suppose if it makes you feel better to start talking like that then so be it, but just to put the record straight, I am not whining about getting negative responses to my post, in fact quite a few have been positive if not welcoming.
The point is negative or not, they are just answers to my post, its nothing to get so antsy about.

littlelapin are you going to say I am a troll next. Or just call me a liar straight out?

ansty

I like that word.

I always think these threads are like a personality quiz question.

You have been reading posts on a forum and you think the people on it have a habit of being unpleasant. Do you :

a. Leave them to it
b. Join the forum and set a better example
c. Join the forum and tell them they are all very unpleasant and should change

Score 0 for a, +10 for b, -100 for c

why thank you aitch..you're looking pretty hot yourself..

oh right, sorry juicy, i completely wasn't referring to you there but i can see how you'd think i might have been.

i do think AIBU has been VERY bad for the tone on MN, btw.

ping.. I have not once said mn should be a certain way.

mmm

AIBU can become a little heated especially as a number of people posting on this thread don't understand the premise that you can say they are being unreasonable.

On balance I agree with LL

yes that's true littlelapin....although i like a few people on here i know i have absolutely nothing in common with...i guess i just haven't learnt the art of being able to put my point of view across without sounding arsey/condesending/childish etc.....but i'm learning.

daftpunk you talk a lot of bollox

me too, ronaldinho. if anyone has lurked for a week they'll know that these threads cause offence. ergo, the OP wishes to cause offence in posting, ergo... is fairly guilty herself.

I love ergo!

Ergo I love Aitch

piss off harleyd..i'm trying to be serious here..

Well Aitch I would like to agree with you but I am worried it will look like we are a clique! So I am not going to agree with you but I do agree with what your saying

The bit I really dont' understand about OP is it starts by saying you have finally got the courage up to post SOMETHING.

Yes, yes, it can be daunting, my first post was something very dull about ebay. But having got up your courage to finally post something, you go straight with the swift kick to the groin with beauties like -

'thrilled...relish...insult and abuse as long as it keeps you amused....one rule for one, one for another....hypocritical...bullying..
I am pretty sure some of you know this is true!'

It's probably less daunting when you're not claiming that the majority of your audience are abusive hypocritical bullies. Perhaps?

I agree with some of what you have said.

Many times a newbie/unknown poster would get a very different response to a post than a well-known poster. Also, if a well known poster posts a response others then agree with that post which they might not otherwise. I'm sure alot of prolific posters have said in the past that they are surprised at responses to their posts (even from their "friends" iirc) if they post in a different name.

But that's life and it's been happening on here as long as I've been a member. Either become a prolific/well known poster or accept it!