In admitting that I like being a SAHP?

[NotanOtterOHappyDay]

Some people on these boards think I must be lying?

i am with you on this yanbu i have had 5 kids age's between well oldest is 27 next is 25 then 15 / 8/ 3 and i have stayed home with them all until they go to normal school my 3 yr old is 4 in january so i'll be going back to work then but only school times ,
i do help at school while my 3 year old is at preschool twice a week volentry

"only on MN does this subject get folk het up,in RL no one cares or talks about it

my friends are working and sahp,we dont discuss it"

I'm with scottishmummy. I think its odd.

One or two extreme posters on either side get everyone het up and you all say the same things over and over again.

I like being a SAHM too not forever but for now

Perty, you didn't have the last word on that thread griselda did...

I love being a SAHM, I wanted to do it when DS was born but could not afford to so went back four days a week when he was 8 months, as DH salary has risen I have finally been able to be the SAHM I have always wanted to be.

That does not mean to say that I think there is anything wrong in being a WOHM, everyones situation and preferences are differnt and I respect that. I consider myself to be extremely lucky that I actually have the choice and that DH supports it.

Being a SAHM has been great for me and our family as a whole. Our family operates better with someone at home who has time to run the home and see to the kids. But I am just getting to the point when I want to do something outside the house again. I'm nervous that that will up the stress levels for the whole family though. I am a pretty organised person, but am starting to really appreciate how much more difficult things will be if I start working again.

you are not being unreasonable at all. Its lovely that you are doing something that you love and are happy with your choices.

I work full time and would hate to be a sahm, but thats me, very happy with our choices - happy mammy + happy daddy = happy dd - dont think much else matters!!

Live and let live. There's no need for rudeness, unpleasantness or disagreement. And especially bad language. I would hope that SAHM and WOHM and UTOAM could all agree on that at least.

what is UTOAM?

gawd is this still going on

totalmisfit - your post is interesting as where I live at least 50% of the Mums SAH for the early yrs (until youngest child starts school), and most of the Mums who work are part time.

So the ratio of working mums to stay at home mums must vary widely in different areas of the country.

In RL no one has ever questioned my decision to be a SAHM - thank goodness!

Kew is right. Perty, you did not get the last word he he he

pointy- why would you want to have a go at perty when all she was giving was her opinion.

To try and say otherwise is a little childish, as was insulting her. I dont understand what you would gain from trying to make her sound like she was being smug when all she done was gave her opinion on the OP subject.

I was a working mum with DD (from 8 months old) and had (unplanned!!) twins just before she started school so was a SAHM until they started school then went back to work fulltime. We are lucky in that DH works later in the AM so he gets them ready, takes them to school and gives them a fun start to day (when I always used to be screaming at them to hurry up!!) and I do the evening stuff (bath, dinner, homework - def got the short end of the stick!). So it works pretty well and I have no guilt about the 2 hours they spend at the afterschool club as they generally do not want to come home when I rush to pick them up.

I hated working when DD was small but also hated being a SAHM after about the first year (cos two was too bloody knackering) but personally experiencing both sides, I think what we did with the twins was the best thing - waiting until they were at school. Did not hurt my career and am now enjoying earning my own dosh again (DH cannot whinge about how much I spend on clothes anymore It is totally personal choice.

..Sugar sweet dumpling.. I loved that song.

" Perty, you didn't have the last word on that thread griselda did... "

Harrumph!

I don;t know how she did it but she did... I think palms were greased at MNHQ...

I am a SAHM and I love it! I wouldn't be doing it if I didn't. I always say that I am a stay-at-home-mum, not a housewife, because I'm actually quite a rubbish housewife. However, me being at home does help the whole household to function more effectively, and helps DH in his career.

I have had PND after the births of both of my DS's, and can't even imagine what going back to work would have done. I think that the guilt would have pushed me over the edge. As it is I feel that I have made the best decision for my family.

I envy you.

I don't exactly love my job but found looking after ds full time was slowly sending me insane!

I wish I either loved being a sahm or a wohm. As it is I find both a bit boring, just in different ways

I do find that the house is a lot messier now so I must have done some housework when on mat leave!