In admitting that I like being a SAHP?

[NotanOtterOHappyDay]

Some people on these boards think I must be lying?

Well good on you I would love to be able to afford to be a SAHM but sadly I cant although if I could get a decent job Id be fine TBH I like working but just not where I am and my DS seems happy so hey but different situations work for different people eh?

I am bloody shocked that people even care at the end of the day some of us work some dont its hardly the end of the world is it?

God, I loved it.

I wish people would read threads properly and respond to the people who are being negative rather than lumping all WOHM or SAHM together.

For the record (and hopefully this is the last time I have to say it)

if you are fortunate enough to have a choice, then make your choice. If you want to stay home, do it. If you want to work, do it. I would never be so presumptious as to tell anyone else they are 'missing out'. I find it really odd that anyone thinks they can tell me I am.
Or indeed, tell me what I think as perty did!

Weird.

No I'm was only trying to answer the question you asked about 36 times (ok I didn't really count that might be wrong). You might not have said I'm missing out on a career, I just picked that up from your post above saying how you have a career, which is only relevant inasmuch as making the point that a SAHM doesn't. I promise I have no issue with lack of career. I had one, I hated it, I left.

Agree 24/7 would drive me nuts. However you can't deny I get more time with my kids than you do. That's just a fact, not smugness, not trying to convince you of anything. I'm happy you're happy. I'm happy. You're happy. I don't get why we're arguing here. I was only answering your question in the first place from the point of view of what I feel I would miss if I worked FT, although I appreciate I could have worded it better.

No YANBU, good for you.

I can't think why anyone would criticize that choice. I work and don't want to, it's not that I don't want a career I want a career break to spend the most precious years with my dd. Unfortunately I need the cash and have to go to work.

YANBU, I like being a SAHM, although I also enjoy the times when I work away from home.

i agree with perty.

if you are a sahm your are missing out on your career.

if your away from your dcs working then you are missing time with them while you are working.

not really that difficult to see really is it.

How can ybu if you're saying you like your job? Being a full-time parent is a job, but its often not treated as one by some working parents, some spouses and society in general- I didn't before children.

I personally don't find my job even half as fulfilling than spending time with my child. But it's horses for courses.

Thank you for clarifying that perty. I think your last sentence is crucial - you were looking at my situation from your perspective. You would feel you were missing out if you work full time. That's fine. Many other people don't.
We are all different, we all have different experiences, and knowing that you hated your career explains a lot. I certainly wouldnt remain in a career I hated.

I think trying to 'second guess' what other people are missing out on is a pointless exercise, and the danger is that it comes across as not being happy with your own situation.

it's definitely a job I feel as if I have 2!

I can't get beyond perty's smugness to consider agreeing with anything she said or not

Isn't it bizarre that blokes never give any thought to this, or feel remotely guilty as far as I can tell ...

yes, boffin, valid point

here is a novel idea.do what you want,accept others do as they wish.may not concur with your choice

YANBU at all. I am a SAHM and I THINK I would like to work part time maybe - each to their oen.

Sorry ftr for unfortunate use of the word think. Really, I know I am missing out on a career, it stands to reason I am, I wasn't trying to accuse you of thinking anything unreasonable.

BTW - I think it is lovley to enjoy what you are doing.

pointydog which bit is smug? Pointing out the obvious fact that SAHM get more time with their kids? Or the obvious fact that we don't get to have a career alongside parenting? Or the fact that I'm happy? Or the fact that I think it's fine for people to do what they like as long as they are happy?

"And I was so pleased getting the last word in on that thread and here we are again he he he."

I always wanted to be a SAHM if we could afford to, and luckily DH managed to come out of uni into a well enough paid job that we have been able to.

We've still managed to have a second child and buy our house too, but compared to some our income is pretty low still (good for our area though)

Some days i wish i could get away from the DC's argueing and bickering and go to work, but 95% of the time I love being able to spend the time i can with them.

I do miss the adult interaction that comes with work, but i find some toddler groups helpful for some sanity!!

YANBU for enjoying spending the time you can with your kids, if that happens to be all your time as a SAHP then lucky you!!

Oh I see PD! I agree, very smug of me, and totally wasted too.

YANBU. After 20yrs enjoying work I now hate every second of the (massive)1 and half days I do (to pay my loan)I long to be with my dd and even pop to see her at lunchtime.