In admitting that I like being a SAHP?

[NotanOtterOHappyDay]

Some people on these boards think I must be lying?

what annoys me is that i'm on MN and there seems to be an equal balance between SAHMs and WOHMs.

I venture out into RL and i'm a freak with a big hole in my life because i 'don't work'. And then i start questioning my choices and wondering if i'm doing the right thing.

I would love to actually meet some other SAHMs some day, just for moral support

It's interesting that the discussions about SAHM v working mums never seem to include any reference to what people's partners do. I work 3 days a week, for 2 of those days DD goes to nursery and the other she spends with DH which I think is lovely, they go to a music class with another dad and his DS and have lots of fun playing together. It works because DH is self-employed and I think it's a real shame that more dads don't have the opportunity to work flexibly and look after their DCs during the week. They'd appreciate us more if they did!

only on MN does this subject get folk het up,in RL no one cares or talks about it

my friends are working and sahp,we dont discuss it

I start working fulltime tomorrow. I am sad.

Funny isn't it, I think that there a few who like to have a good debate about it on here it's not at all a true reflection of reality. I have no issue at all with sahp's have tons of friends who do both too and we all get on just as well, most I know who work would prefer not to though, definitlely think my dd gets a bum deal though with me working, she has a great time at nursery but the days are too damn long for her and me and we get knacked and grumpy.

I start working fulltime tomorrow. I am .

my dp would stop working altogether if he could

nickerless good luck for tomorrow

aw nickerless.
goodluck.

in my experience, people do care about this in real life. i have a health visitor urging me to take adult education classes so that i'm not 'stuck at home all the time' hmmph.

it doesn't matter how much i protest that when dp's at home i go off and paint landscapes or try to work on my screenplay, or that i already have a degree, it's the fact that i don't work at anything that pays a salary that gets me pitying looks. Of course these people aren't friends. between friends these things are much more live and let live.

my hairdresser (man) works 6 days a week until 7pm so his wife can stay at home and he is very sad that he is missing out on family life, there are tons of men who would drop days and stay at home. Most people's work just aint that fulfulling and they have other interests... women get the best of both worlds as we can choose to do either or both with flexible working.. well we could if cost of living wasn't so high ..

I will miss the kids, (I worked part time before in school hours) and I am so nervous about meeting new people

what is it with health visitors and crap advice, just tell her to piss off.. is she a mumsnetter?

total misfit i empathise

not as far as i know i s'pose she might be

Otter - I love being a SAHM. For the first time in my life, I have found something that I realy enjoy and that I am reasonably good at!

DD has just started school, so my days of 13-hrs-a-day Mummying are over (sob), but I have endless happy memories from that time which far outweigh the ones like toddler DS rolling in dog-poo because he was protesting about going in his buggy!!

I know I sound selfish (tuff). But my mother would never have afforded to give me a £60,000 deposit towards my home if she was a SAHM.
Im glad she ended up a sucessful career woman. Thanks mum!

oh god you're depressing me, am at work tomorrow yahboo... have had 2 weeks off too with a very poorly dd and no annual leave ... left work colleagues high and dry eeee

sadly my mum has worked like a B**tard on her career since I was 6 weeks old and she has given me nothing ...

My mother was a single parent and I remember always coming home to an empty home after school. I have forgiven her now.

had key on ribbon hanging round my neck.parents worked ft.nothing but admiration for them

they did what they had to do

You do all realise that children don't really mind as long as they feel happy and secure. It is the parents that get bothered about it.

Early on, your children won't even remember who looked after them. They will remember contentment or not.

My mother went back to work when I was 6 weeks old. My mil never worked and is really proud of it. Neithe me or my dp give our different upbringings a second thought.

yes - gutting that all my bloody best efforts will go un remembered

hey ho!

from 5-18 spent more time at school than with parents,despite that no teacher usurps parents

YANBU. I too love being a SAHM.

I was a WOHM from DD being 16 weeks til she was 4, but childcare was so easy pre-school. Then I realised I'd have to move to 5 days a week to fulfil the same hours I was doing part time just so I could cover the 9 til 3 routine. Or I'd have to track down a child minder for mornings/afternoons only...or I'd have to do breakfast club/after school club. It all got a bit too taxing, really. And it's so inflexible. Not really the way I like to operate as an employee, so somethig had to give.

So...I'm now on a career break. It's due to end in 2 years, but I'm not sure if I'll go back or not. I'm enjoying myself way too much right now!! And dd and dh love it.