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AIBU?

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Original poster

aibu..in not wanting deliverymen asking to use my toilet..

150 replies

daftpunk · 13/11/2008 11:48

i had a new washing machine deliverd...he asked if he could use my toilet...he was only in my house 10 minutes...can't he wait?

i would never ask if i was a delivery type person..i would go to macdonalds.

i don't like strangers using my bathroom...aibu?

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bellavita · 13/11/2008 16:06

Do you know if it was my brother, dad, dh (or myself) that were delivery drivers, I would hope that someone would be kind and let them/me use the toilet.

I always offer a cup of coffee/tea or if it is summer and warm a cold drink.

cheshirekitty · 13/11/2008 16:07

I do not mind delivery men using my loo. When I was a community nurse/midwife, I had houses that I would use their loo, and houses I would never ask to use the loo as they where filthy.

If you are constantly being asked by delivery men can they use your loo, it is probably because you have a nice clean house.

mrsruffallo · 13/11/2008 16:23

YABU

BarbieLovesKen · 13/11/2008 16:43

I actually cannot believe the people here saying they wouldnt let someone use their toilet! just seems outrageous to me!!!!

Bubbaluv · 13/11/2008 16:46

Freud would have a field day with you lot! Very odd!

VinegarTits · 13/11/2008 16:53

I wouldnt say no if someone asked, but would secretly be seething and waiting outside with my rubber gloves on and the bleach, only family allowed to shit on my loo, i cant shit on strange loos either, i hold it in till i get home.

Original poster
daftpunk · 13/11/2008 17:00

vinegartits;.... i'm exactly the same, i wait till i get home.

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FairLadyRantALot · 13/11/2008 17:10

Perkin has got a very good point there.....it is a compliment....

Original poster
daftpunk · 13/11/2008 17:19

well yes, my house is so clean it shines.

i've just got round to reading all replies and i am at some of them....thanks all.

i have to admit, i still don't think i am being unreasonable...

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pingping · 13/11/2008 17:30

YANBU some people are nasty I don't like anyone using my toliet but I do let them but sulk about it.

I am very cautious on the toilets I use as well most likely have OCD Lol

bubblagirl · 13/11/2008 17:33

i wouldnt have a problem at all after all if i needed to go i would politely ask to use someones toilet

what can they really egt up to you trust them enough to enter your house with delivery but not to pee dont make sense

FairLadyRantALot · 13/11/2008 17:39

I'm really surpised how precious people are over their bogs....lol....it's a loo ....lol

fossa · 13/11/2008 17:44

I would hate this. I saw one of those house of horror things once where a workman peed in the sink, even though it was about a foot from the loo, and then wiped the basin with a face towel.

Nope, yanbu.

posieflump · 13/11/2008 17:47

'YANBU

I always say no. It is disgusting.'

why is it disgusting to use a loo for what a loo is intended ot be used for?
what on earth do they say when you say 'no mate you can't use my loo' If it was a woman bursting to go I bet you wouldn't mind.

I often work on a mobile library and frequently ask my borrowers if I can use their loo. If they all said no like some of you mean lot I would be truly appalled and saddened. What ever happened to human kindness? And I bet you are the lot who expect blokes to stand up on the tube for pregnant ladies

BexieID · 13/11/2008 18:06

I always have to think hard when someone wants to use my loo, I hope I flushed beforehand. I have a habit of chucking Toms turds down there straight from the nappy and not flushing as I want to get the nappy in the sink to rinse through.

I would rather use my own throne.

BexieID · 13/11/2008 18:07

Whats that saying? The jobs not finished until the paperwork is done!

expatinscotland · 13/11/2008 20:28

yes, i really do say no.

they can go and shit somewhere else.

falcon · 13/11/2008 20:32

YABU. I can't understand why anyone would refuse to allow someone to use their toilet for the very purpose it was intended for.

pickupthismess · 13/11/2008 20:36

I always let guys use my loo until last week this bloody delivery man poo'd and it stunk the house out and it was dirty. Absolutely disgusting. I was nearly sick cleaning the toilet after. My DH rung the company to complain and they said they told their guys never to ask. After all what are garages, service stations, pubs etc for?

onepieceoflollipop · 13/11/2008 20:40

Tbh I am not that comfortable about letting someone go upstairs to use the loo.

I have had experience of people being incredibly disrespectful in their use of the facilities.

When I was suffering severe morning sickness dh's uncle trod mud all up the stairs and round the bathroom, peed everywhere but in the actual loo as far as I could see. There were literally puddles on the floor which I had to scrub before my children crawled/slipped in them.

Surely he doesn't behave like this at home. Fair enough it could have been an accident, but then he or his wife could have quietly had a work and it could have been cleared up without just leaving it.

And wrt those men discussed earlier on the thread. Leaving a loo seat so soiled that it has to be taken to the tip?! Would they do it at home? Surely if someone was really caught so short with a violent stomach disorder, they could spend a moment or two clearing up after themselves.

If this happened to one of us (being taken "unwell" in a friend's bathroom I mean) I am sure we would make a tactful excuse, ask for a cloth to wipe up a small spillage/mishap. These disgusting men (mentioned earlier) just push off. That is so disgusting imo.

seeker · 13/11/2008 20:40

Doesn't everyone have a facility for the staff at the end of the garden? Surely tradespeople can use that?

onepieceoflollipop · 13/11/2008 20:42

And another example from pickupthismess. Fair enough the man can't help it if it was smelly. However he could have opened the window/switched fan on. If there was no loo brush/cloth available he could have discreetly asked.

Perhaps some people really do behave like this in their own homes. My dh certainly doesn't - he would be exh if he did. Would any of your dh/dps leave a loo in this disgraceful state?

seeker · 13/11/2008 20:44

Everybody knows that working class poo smells worse than middle class poo.........

LynetteScavo · 13/11/2008 20:45

lol Seeker!

The Sainsburys delivery man asked to use ny loo once, now I wouldn't have minded
so much, if he hadnt' already driven away, and come back 5 mins later!

I did let him, though.

Ripeberry · 13/11/2008 20:49

I've had to ask people if i can use their loo when i was working as a home carer.
I would be out from 5pm until 11pm and sometimes out in the countryside where it was dark and there were no conviniences open.
But most people were OK about it.
But i always felt VERY uncomfortable about asking to use their loo, but would only do so if i was desperate!