aibu..in not wanting deliverymen asking to use my toilet..

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i had a new washing machine deliverd...he asked if he could use my toilet...he was only in my house 10 minutes...can't he wait?

i would never ask if i was a delivery type person..i would go to macdonalds.

i don't like strangers using my bathroom...aibu?

roffle at pagwatch, but choked on my lunch!!

My partner worked as a motorbike courier until very recently. He would be unable to go to the loo pretty much all day as his controllers would be watching on the GPS and he would have so many rush jobs he wouldn't have time to stop anywhere. He would come home in agony after holding it for hours and I'd leave the seat up on the loo and order everyone away from the bathroom when he was 2 minutes from home so he'd have a clear run.

So, I would let a delivery person/courier use my loo. To do otherwise seems a little mean spirited. After all there is always a bottle of Flash or Cif or Ecover in most houses.

yaNbu

Of course I always say yes if someone asks, but it can be pretty traumatic.

A man came to fix my dishwasher. He asked to use the loo and I knew I was in trouble when he did not emerge for about 20 minutes. He then said he'd have to come back and shot off out of the door.

No wonder he left sharpish. Just let's say I removed the toilet seat and took it down the tip...

I hate saying this but DP yabu

YANBU.

i don't like them using my bathroom, either.

i tell them that and also about my struggles with postnatal depression and anxiety disorder.

that sorts them out .

I do not like the expression "these people" from another post, but YANBU I would have felt very uneasy to let anyone I do not know use my toilet.

Yes, that was me - perhaps it sounds unkind....but I'm very wary of anyone I don't know. I wouldn't feel comfortable opening my front door and letting anyone walk in. I think the use of a toilet is personal so I'm not happy for anyone to use it unless it is someone I know and trust.

It is a truth that only working or upper class people let strangers use their loo.

It is also the same for tipping delivery men or offering them a cup of coffee or tea.

exactly!..your toilet is very personal..this is my house....i hate the thought of stranger's bits being whipped out , even if it is for natural purposes...i'm glad i'm not alone on this one.

YABU - where would you rather they did it? You do realise they are probably hours away from their depot and shops/pub toilets are normally for customers only.

I just say "so long as you leave it as you find it" and point to the detergent!

Zazen - would have been mighty pissed off at the dirty workboots. I got 2 lovely guys last year delivering from Next (in case their anyones dh) they insisted on taking my dd's unassembled bed (came in about 20 boxes!) up to her room so they weren't leaving it downstairs for the kids to fall over and took their boots off at the front door without me even asking. They even made sure they had left a clear path to her bed "cause we didn't know if you would get it assembled for tonight luv".

i always make people working at my house cups of tea. i have been known to tip. i let them use my loo.although i actually have a loo that we don't use so it is like a tradesmans loo. mostly people take their shoes off coming into my house - which i find odd as i don't.

i think i must be upper class then hf.

cripes.

In our current house where we have a small guest toilet downstairs, I'd be comfortable with them using it. But I admit I'd be a bit uncomfortable with people using our main bathroom upstairs. I'd let them (if we only had one bathroom), but wouldn't like it. .

But then, I love my little guest toilet because it means that our bathroom remains mostly just for us.

I call AIBU by stealth:

OP: AIBU not to want a delivery man using my loo?
Everyone: YABU
OP: But I have a PHOBIA!

yabu,
poor bloke!
did he ask politely? did he leave it presentable?
If so then give poor man a break.

Pag - you are truly posh! Just like me

i always let them use it...i would never say no...but my eyes are up in heaven as soon as i hear them open my toilet door..

i hate the thought of stranger's bits being whipped out

blimet that's what gets me through the day

Maybe the couriers should get a shewee ?

Or wait, how about going into a cafe and go there like everyone else does? Buy a bottle of water, to keep your self topped up on the way.

It's the same for everyone who works outside an office / home, or is in a town / city where a wild wee or poo is not available, no?

How often do they ask you? To be honest, no one has ever asked me. So it's currently rhetorical...

i've been married 17 years..and i guess i've been asked 6 or 7 times...that's alot i think.

is this serious? really?

yabu - bit ridiculous imo

Pag is the Queen, doncha know?

Binning the toilet seat...sounds horrendous!!

MP, rofling at you tho!

take it as a compliment.

I'm a community health professional, and on the days when I don't get chance to get back to the office I only ask to use the loo in the nicest and cleanest homes .

YABU
poor man.