to try to make the best of DDs hair???

[AstroPup]

Fed up of people acting like I'm a terrible mother for spending a little time on dd's hair (she's 7 btw).
Its naturally mid brown and a bit frizzy.
For a party last year i straightened it, it looked so nice and she loved it so now i do it every week (wknd, not for schhol).
Well, people are so bitchy about it. but why?
They dont have a problem with the highlights, just the straightening....i dont ge it.
Its really bugging me now.

I'm not judging, I just think it's sh*te to colour a 7 year old's hair. It's my opinion.

I'm happy to be judgemental about a seven year olds hair being highlighted. She asked AIBU?

The answer: YES!!!! It is ICK ICK ICKETY ICK

Thank you Hedge Witch - think i'll leave the thread now. Its so bizarre to hear these assumptions about me and my family that bare no relation to reality.
And for me now to be called smug and patronising... well that is the cherry on top of a very strange cake

So, she's beautiful inside and out but you still feel the need to artificially colour her hair? How odd.

I often look at BabyDragon's resolutely mousey hair and think of highlighting it. I also look at the birds nest of fluffy curls at the back and think of straightening it. I never would though.

Expecially as I touched my ear with my straighteners this morning (whilst straightening my chemically coloured hair ) and it was f-ing painful!

"it makes me laugh that supposedly my daughters hair interest will make her vain and too into her looks"

Regular straightening and highlighting is a bit more than 'hair interest' IMO

7 years old? Can't children just be children?

Shouldn't you be teaching your daughter that mummy thinks she's beautiful without the need for any tweaking?

It's nothing to do with hair being 'sacred' for me.

You don't live outside society as far as I know so she will eventually (if not already) be swayed by fashion/worry about her appearance/compare herself in beauty magazines.

At 7 it's just unnecessary to me to add or contribute to that which is already too prevalent in society today (ie. an obsession with being 'pretty' or 'beautiful' to a standard dictated by an industry)

I will just say though - this is an aibu thread (first, i think, and last!) so i dont mind anyone saying yabu.
But i dont like that ridiculous assumptions are made - that i shave her legs and put make up on her and make her feel she's ugly without having her hair straightened or whatever.
But, again, tis the way AIBU's work.

Me neither Lula that's why I wanted a name. Oh well I guess we will never know as OP has left the thread.

Surely this is a joke ? (Following in the recent wake of "mums who get dressed up for mum and toddler group" thread.)

Haven't read the whole thread but

Vegetable dyes cannot lighten the hair, chemicals are needed to remove the natural pigmentation. These types of veg dyes can only darken/redden the hair.

My dd can't even sit still for a haircut, never mind highlights, she would rather be running round the salon touching stuff she shouldn't.

This is another of those threads, isn't it? Where the OP asks a seemingly innocent question with a bit of a bombshell at the end. Like 'why do people get so upset about my dd having her ears pierced? And btw they don't seem to mind that she is covered in tattoos'

Let her go out and get muddy, mess her hair up and have fun!
YABU

'she is not a girls world' lmao

oh but she is so

OMG!!! I'm a hairdresser and I would never colour a childs hair under the age of !!, and under the age of 16 it has to be with full parental permission. Be it with natural dyes or chemcal dyes... it is still colouring her hair, drying out the poor girls hair, which will ultimatley make it more frizzy and need the straightening!!

My DD is 2.5 and she wont have a colour on her hair till at least 11... and thats only if its something natural looking...

Not that i even think its right to colour a childs hair from 11 upwards, but as girls get to high-school they get more self-aware, start colouring their hair at sleepovers etc, and i would rather allow a couple of natural looking highlights/lowlights than her go out and ruin her hair with other dyes.

7YO is way too young to be colouring your childs hair... and what will that do for her self confidence in a few years time? she is still a VERY young child right now!! If she feels that you colour her hair to make her look 'sweet' she'll think she doesn't without it!!

Not sure I agree with colouring, don't think it is necessary. Straightening I don't see a problem with, surely it is only the opposite to curling a little girl's hair for a special occasion. Good hair straighteners won't ruin the hair if they are used properly. I use hair straighteners every day, but I use conditioner every time I wash it and get it cut every 6 weeks, it isn't ruined by the straighteners at all, in fact it is in beautiful condition.

I never said you make her feel ugly but it was a fair question about the shaving and the make up.