to try to make the best of DDs hair???

[AstroPup]

Fed up of people acting like I'm a terrible mother for spending a little time on dd's hair (she's 7 btw).
Its naturally mid brown and a bit frizzy.
For a party last year i straightened it, it looked so nice and she loved it so now i do it every week (wknd, not for schhol).
Well, people are so bitchy about it. but why?
They dont have a problem with the highlights, just the straightening....i dont ge it.
Its really bugging me now.

I think it is very sad that a child of such a young age can be so aware of her looks already.

Does she shave her legs, pluck her eyebrows, wear make up as well?

Little boys of 4 years old in my DS's reception class want 'cool' haircuts. They pick it up off other kids - I am afraid its just a fact of school life.

Lula - yes, if she was having blonde highlights she would need the colour stripped out - she's not. The cammomile just makes the heair a bit more golden and more luminous (?).
Mamag - dont be silly.

Children are very aware of their looks at that age. My dd (4) will only wear dresses as someone called her a name a year ago for wearing trousers, and always has to have tidy hair. It doesn't make them bad children-it is a personality thing I think. If the daughter was wanting crimped hair (i.e. plaitted when wet and then slept on) would you be as upset? That is pretty much the same thing AFAIAC

Could you give us the name of this dye please, as I fancy trying it on ME

bobbles and slides is all she should be doing. Vegetable or otherwise, you're dying your child's hair.

I am not being silly.

My DD has her hair plaited to make it curly and that is so not the same as artificially colouring it.

It is camomile vegetable dye!! Speak to your hairdresser

There is no chemicals involved in straightening hair "justneedsomesleep*.Just good old hair straighteners. Op's daughter is not 3 either...

Yes you said, but surely it is branded under a name, L'oreal etc.

Yes, i am colouring her hair.
I am not hiding behind the veg dye thing - i mentioned it just as people were assuming harsh chemicals are involved.
But yes, dyeing id dyeing is dyeing.
And im absolutely fine with it.

Sorry, thought we were still on the straightening . Will go now .........

do you do the highlights yourself? because an hairdresser who agrees to highlight a 7 yr olds hair "vegetable" or not should be ashamed of themselves

my dd1 has the wildest frizziest hair ever (so my profile) but i tell her she is gorgeous and that i love her hair. its so soft to touch. she is very confident because i tell her this all the time. she woud think i was insane if i offered to change its colour or state

I'm not sure that it is under a brand name fimbo - my mum is a hairdresser and uses her trade products.
But really, if you;re that interested try Google.

I used to use cammomile products on my hair when I was probably about 9 years old.

so do you tell your dd that she is even more beautiful with her fake hair colour?

cos hopefully she wont hear that as "you are not pretty enough - we need to change you"

My dd has wild hair and I often straighten it for parties etc. Now pg with dc2, all I care about is that he or she is healthy, don't give a toss about colour, texture or shape of its hair!

Ergh, this is a bit mommie dearest.

Astropup you have come across as quite sane on other threads - highlighting a 7 yo's hair is ick. Tis undeniable.

old n'grey now - sob!

What's the rush to grow up?
It's too much too young

You have a smug ad patronising tone to you posts which his got on my tits now Astropup

The fact that you feel the need to highlight (regards what you use bleach/veg/tea, whatever) your dds hair to make her look 'really sweet and summery' is quite sad, and leaves a bad taste in my mouth.

Nailpolish - not at all. she is fantastic and beautiful inside and out and that has nothing to do with her hair.
as ive said before, in my family messing about and experimenting with your hair is
nothing to do with beauty magazines
latest trends
self worth etc
Its about having fun - i guess we just dont see hair as this sacred thing that others do - its a bunch of dead cells you can have all sorts of fun with.

i dont see hair as sacred either fgs