to try to make the best of DDs hair???

[AstroPup]

Fed up of people acting like I'm a terrible mother for spending a little time on dd's hair (she's 7 btw).
Its naturally mid brown and a bit frizzy.
For a party last year i straightened it, it looked so nice and she loved it so now i do it every week (wknd, not for schhol).
Well, people are so bitchy about it. but why?
They dont have a problem with the highlights, just the straightening....i dont ge it.
Its really bugging me now.

'Her hair gets natural highlights in the summer which she loves, so its just carrying them on through winter. were not talking blonde stripes, just some natural looking golden-y bits round her face'

I never heard such bull, you put harsh chemicals on a 7yr hair, and thats your excuse, your nuts.

Or even 'invented'.

Highlights on a 7yo?

DD1 (10yo) has long fizzy hair. We do everyknow and then straighten it. I would not do it every day as I am not sure how much "damage" it could do to her hair but I don't think it is worse than spending time trying to do bunches that are actually level and symetrical (still cannot manage that.) It is just another hairdo. Pretty sure your daughter will not become obsessed by her looks and vain as long as ou carry on doing it occasionnaly and sensibly . I is all to do with not measure.

it is all to do with.

I agree that highlights are a bit OTT.

prove it! lol

"do you live in a trailer park?"

Its ever so easy to build a caricature from one snippet of information isn't it? Easy and lazy.

I would have KILLED for mum to straighten my hair-it was MINGING! Dd has my hair but is young enough for me to put it in plaits or do "priness hair"-she looks like a street urchin if it is down. I see no prob with straightening it-my mum used a hot brush on me for my baby photos

Sorry about the typos there

I shant be posting a picture of my dd, MB, if thats all the same with you. im more than satisfied that i exist, thank you.

and i thought blow drying my dd's hair every night was bad (is very long and thick) - she's almost 3. I was concerned about the heat damage, but i can't put her to bed with wet hair in the winter, summertime yes.

So absolutely no way would i consider straightnening or highlighting a child's hair! Think of the chemicals and also how long it takes to get this done! Painting all the chemicals on (next to the face) - toxic fumes and ......oh I can't go on...............pointless......................

You highlight your 7 year old's hair?? You are a loon.

I had natural highlights in the summer - it was one of the things to look forward to in the summer - now I look forward to ds's hair going blonder - but then he has a hair cut in the autumn and he is a darker brown in the winter (which looks great too).

Highlights on a 7yo - no. Straightening hair for special occasions - I could understand that. But I would also be trying to work out hair care that would help during the week as well - I had hair that went frizzy when I was growing up. It's not until the last 10yrs or so when I have found hair products that mean I don't have the friz problem - for my hair that just requires a gentle shampoo and a very heavy conditioner and something to stick it together - If I'd had this as a teenager I would have loved it!

oh dear, i think some of you have very old fasioned ideas about highlights.
Never heard of vegetable dyes? (cammomile is great for a delicately picking out natuarally occuring highlights) also, nothing touches her scalp it is applied through the length, so lets get this into perspective. Hair after all is dead cells hanging off your head.
Yes im sure some highlights involve harsh chemicals but not all. Its amazing how people will always assume the worst.
Jugde away, im sure its satisfying for you

come on

do you promise you're only using camomile tea on her hair

If so, it's hardly a stretch for you to have posted this info before - its' perfectly clear that everyone thought you meant actual highlights

Now firmly believing that the opportunity for you to post this last post may have been the sole purpose of the thread

Its not cammomile tea

Vegetable dyes are legitimate products used by hairdressers, just using more natural ingredients.
Im not sopping her head in tea or coming up with my own concoctions! have you really never heard of veg dyes?

YANBU about the straightening.
My DD has lovely hair BUT it has a tendency to get weird kinks in, her parting goes all wonky and it just looks awful unless it's dampened and put up/blow dried or straightened.
She looks scruffy otherwise and I'd hate that.

I'm not sure about the highlights though. What's the reason for that (assuming there's a good one)

my dd loves her hair to be nice. i let her have it how she wants. at the end of the day, children are governed by so many rules etc, they need to be able to make SOME choices. DDs hair is lovely and blonde and we spend a while doing it every morning. people always comment how nice her hair looks. Heaven forbid I get my GHDs out though! she wants hers doing as well! doesn't bother me though, and if people have got nothing better to do than complain about my daughters hair, then they are very sad people!

7 year olds should not be that worried about their appearence surely !

I think it is wrong to highlight her hair at such a young age.
She is too young for such things- children have a unique beauty that doesn't need improving imo

oof there are some judgey people on Mumsnet. Agree the highlights are unlikely to harm her, something I couldn't be bothererd with but y'know as long as it is seen as a 'bit of fun' and she's not done up like a 'sexy' pageant queen I can't see a problem.

She's not at all worried about her appearance. She loves messing about with her hair, as ive said she gets it from me. I got it from my mum (a hairdresser).
I think in my family hair is just something to experimaent with and have fun with.
If you could see the array of bobbles and slides she wears for school! i think its too easy to assume this kind of thing comes from a negative feeling.
But i also understand that from the outside, with no other knowledge of her as a person, you could assume there are issues.
But there arent!

Aveda salons do highlights, I am sure there is some ammonia in them but very little. You can highlight your hair when pregnant, no dye goes near the scalp.