to think so called friends are so out of order

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dds birthday party yesterday at church hall.40 kids (all dds reception class) plus friends and family kids.

invited friends from work,one is my immediate boss and one another manager like me.

it was a lovely day,the kids loved it and so did the parents which were predominatly school mums.

my boss said today in fron of two other managers that she and other girl stood out as they were 'middle class' and as soon as they walked in they thought it and stayed at the back of the hall.Her comment was something along the lines of "I said god look at us we are the only middle class people here' and she said the other girl who I believed until now to be one of the nicest girls i know said "oo look what I am wearing i really stand out as boho..'

then she made a remark about me giving the kids squash (it was very diluted) and making the kids hyper

you would have thought that i had invited a load of down and outs.The school mums are lovely and a real mix of SAHM and professional but more importantly good people

i asked her how she could presume that the other adults were not middle class and really did it matter

im so angry.my family were there too.

They don't sound like friends to me.

They obviously think they are better than you too.

TWATS.

I have a real mix of firends and if one was to comment ont he other id be hugely pissed off and tell them so. it says more about them than it does the other ppl

xx

They both sound as though they have a very high opinion of themselves TBH people like this are not worth even worrying about stupid snobs .

They sound very much like they are trying to be middle class. Who on earth says things like that? Very Hyacinth Bucket!

Agree that they don't sound like friends. They sound a bit insecure, to be honest.

They sound very ignorant.

As work colleagues you have to maintain cordial relations but I would cease to think of them as the type of poeple I'd want to be friends with if I were you, and put some distance between you.

They are really unpleasnt comments.

im so upset especially about the second friend as she seems so nice.I feel like telling her tomorrow that i knowand its changed how i feel about her

the other two managers who heard the comments were shocked and one said thats just how she is,she speaks without thinking

would you tackle the other 'friend'?

I wouldn't tackle it, but keep them strictly as work colleagues.

thats going to be hard as they will want to know why i am backing off

i am a v honest person that i think i will have to explain how its made me feel

My dh said that my boss was giving him odd looks and i said dont be daft

now i bloody wonder

Don't cause difficuties at work over this, it's not worth it.

Console yourself with thoughts that you can rise above thier ignorance, be profesional, but do not wish to involve these epoel in your life.

rise above them, it will be very satisfying.

"I said god look at us we are the only middle class people here"

lololololololololol
I am afraid I would have laughed myself stupid at that!

classy bird, or what?
It is the sign of extreme vulgarity. I take it they aren't mothers?

Back off and if they ask why explain honestly.

You were made feel that they didn't want to be there, so you won't put them in that position again.

What exactly did they expect? Pimms and nibbles.

You are SOO not being unreasonable about this. Squash at a birthday party is not lower class.

Could you manage to make a few incredulous references to these women thinking you are upper class?

Has it come up again? If so, I would just laugh and say something like "yes Hyacinth"

Be careful: you only have the boss's word about what the other manager said. Don't do anything rash based on hearsay.

yes i cant accept that the other person said that

yes they are both mums

and its soo true what you say revjustabout

ballon slayer i dont get it?upper class??

they sound mad and the rev is right..

am going away to contemplate how giving squash is somehow not middle class

hertsnessex I spent a few minutes trying to work out what TWATS stood for

one remarked to the other that you dont give squash to a young child (2) as it makes them hyper and run about

i thought that was just kids being naughty!

it was so diluted it was like water

right.. presumably as a mother you'd have no idea what was/wasn't a good idea to give a bunch of kids at your party!

god starting to worry now

ham or cheese rolls
little cooked sausages
mini sausage rolls
bananas
cucumber slices
carrot batons
cherry tomotoes
fairy cakes and choc fingers
assorted low fat crisps
vimto or robinsons squash
and god forbid

a choc aero mousse as they were buy one get one free in morrisons (note working class shop..)

What a pillocky thing to say. I can't imagine going into anywhere and saying I felt odd because I was the only middle class person there . It's a very bizarre thing to say and they are probably best totally ignored.

that sounds really nice -good balance of treats and party food- I'd have love to have come . ignore the pillocks.