to think so called friends are so out of order

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dds birthday party yesterday at church hall.40 kids (all dds reception class) plus friends and family kids.

invited friends from work,one is my immediate boss and one another manager like me.

it was a lovely day,the kids loved it and so did the parents which were predominatly school mums.

my boss said today in fron of two other managers that she and other girl stood out as they were 'middle class' and as soon as they walked in they thought it and stayed at the back of the hall.Her comment was something along the lines of "I said god look at us we are the only middle class people here' and she said the other girl who I believed until now to be one of the nicest girls i know said "oo look what I am wearing i really stand out as boho..'

then she made a remark about me giving the kids squash (it was very diluted) and making the kids hyper

you would have thought that i had invited a load of down and outs.The school mums are lovely and a real mix of SAHM and professional but more importantly good people

i asked her how she could presume that the other adults were not middle class and really did it matter

im so angry.my family were there too.

nite nite as awlays you have come up trumps and really cheered me up

What a brilliant thread! really made me laugh.

Sorry that your "friends" are twits, choc'nut.

By saying that, they are making themselves look vulgar, and inferior to everyone else! How rude. I would definitely go off them both after that.

Surely if they work they're working class.

Sorry, I never really get the class type thing.

I used to work for someone who was very "upper class" (Lord X). He had friends who probably weren't as well off as him, but still with a huge house and no need to work and he used to refer to them as "middle class". Never to their face or infront of mutual friends though.

I meant the managers who made the bitchy comments must be working class if they work.

bloody petite bourgeoisie

They are Snobs in the truest sense= Sans Nobilite (without class).

You should say this to them......they won't get it though I assure you

Stupid shit heads. Don't bother with them anymore they are obviously trying too hard to be something they are not. Do you really want to hang around with people who have such a shitty and ignorant attitude?

Buy 'em a copy of Debrett's apiece and leave it on their desks without saying where it's come from. Perhaps you could even highlight a relevany sentence or 2 such as, 'Beyond being true to oneself, many of one's social obligations are met simply by making others feel at ease.'

Cows.

I spoke to my friend this morning as I could not bear it to be between us.

she was very shocked and upset and said 'i never made any such comment!!!!' We chatted about it and she said our boss obviously thought it and had grouped her in on it.She was horrified and said she thought nothing other than it was a lovely party with some really nice friendly people.Then she got very angry about what the boss had done and said she it was affecting her relationship with her today as she felt so angry inside.
she agreed that it was totally inappropriate and very odd.

we are fine and im glad about that.we decided to not mention it again as its obvious boss has some odd thoughts that we would never understand and agreed that we would view her differently from now on

and the dress remark was 'oh i think i have over dressed dd' as friend put fancy party frock on and a lot of kids were casual (my dd was in party frock too)
and juice remark was totally mis communicated too more of at parties kids eat different stuff so they all run about hyper and thats ok cos its what parties are for

i have been out with friend tonight and we are both ok and im dead chuffed as i was in bad place last night

You must feel good having cleared the air between you and this other woman. It'll probably become a running joke between you now

yes it will

tbh i was more worried that i had got her wrong and i am so glad that i havent as shes a really nice person

That's good you got that sorted out. Food sounded great btw, but I don't know what you were thinking with the squash. Should have been your own freshly expressed boob juice, dontcha know?

Oh it's so horrid when people let you down isn't it? I would maybe give the nicer girl the benefit of the doubt, maybe she felt she ought to agree with the other woman.

As for her, what a thing to say? I would probably mention that I heard her comment and didn't appreciate it but then would prob leave it as it is your work!

She will hopefully feel bad but if not then she's not worth it.

Glad you sorted it with your friend, I didn't think her remark was that out of order, wondered if it had been taken out of context.

Totally agree with others who have said it, I don't think anyone who is genuinely middle class would have drawn attention to their "status" in such a vulgar way. I wouldn't fall out with your boss, you won't change her narrow mindedness, but I'd avoid socialising with her outside necessary work events.