To not think is is acceptable for dh to leave ds2 aged nearly 1 in his playpen for 15 minutes whilst he went to the garage!

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DS1 and I have been ill today with an upset tummy. DH just happened to be off today. This afternoon exhausted by it alll we both fell asleep on the settee leaving dh to look after ds2 - his suggestion. When I woke up I saw ds2 in his playpen and I said to him hello little chap how long have you been there? At which point dh replied just a quarter of an hour thats all whilst I did a few jobs in the garage! He just could not understand whilst I was so annoyed! He said I do like to make an issue of things and I do go on! He said it was only a quarter of an hour thats all maximum!
I said we never bought the play pen for that NEVER! Its used so I can do things in the kitchen for his own safety or if I need to go to the toilet etc. Always for very very short periods. Its situated in the dining room and he can see me in the kitchen. He then said that he was not going to let him have the run of the house and I was asleep after all! Hasn't occurred to him to maybe not do the jobs until later and thought I was being totally over the top and just going on etc.
AIBU or was he? He is not pfb btw!

I think your reaction was pretty over the top for the sake of 15 minutes. I agree- YABU.

yabu - you were in the house - probably on the same floor level as ds. you would have heard him cry too.

YABU.

Ds2 loved his playpen. Would spend quite a long time in there - his toys were safe from ds1 for one thing! And vice versa.

YABU

YABU.

What is the point of a playpen then?

I am still confused - he was in the living room. Which room were you in with your other child? If you weren't in the same room the way you have worded your post suggests that you could see him - perhaps through an open door?

DS1 and myself were in the living room and ds2 was in the dining room. Seperate rooms.

Madder than a box of frogs....

were you in the room at the time?

yabu

YABU - a playpen is just that - a pen to play in. It's not a punishment, if he'd been in there for ages and was crying or had dirty nappy then that's understandable but 15 mins?? get a grip!

YABU

I would suggest that you and your dh have a glass of wine/cup of tea and you explain calmly to him that even though he might not understand you would prefer this not to happen again.

It is irrelevant what we all think.

< looks around at some of the other threads and thinks if this is all I had to complain about......>

I also wonder if this is about a little bit more than a playpen? Ime these things often are.

you were in the house, yabu!

dd1 loved her playpen so much, she would crawl into it and shut the gate and would happily play there for a lot longer than just 15mins. she knew it was her space where her toys were safe from a mad labrador puppy.

She was much safer there than crawling around after me, whilst I did things around the house that needed to be done.

YABU. Perhaps you are still feeling overwraught due to being unwell.

Unreasonable is one thing, utterly insane and incredibly rude and patronising to your poor husband may describe you more accurately.

at first i thought you meant he had left the house with child alone in playpen while he was at garage

but no you were there

YABU honey - i think your dh was trying to be thoughtful and you obv needed to sleep and your child was fine, safe and happy in playpen

if the garage was a long way away and you were in a room which was not within easy earshot of the play pen roomthen I think you would have a point.

If your living room is quite close to the dining room then I would be a little aggreived with DH because if DS2 had woken up then your lovely nap would have been disturbed which would not have been the point of the exercise.

I suspect you did go on a bit to your DH over something that wasn't really that big a deal because he has a diferent view on how a playpen should be used and you're irked he didn;t do it your way.

Suspect he won't be orffering to watch DS2 whilst you nap agian!

If he wasn't upset (and I'd imagine you'd have heard him) then he was fine in the playpen. I think it's you feeling that it's cruel rather than him being distressed. I wouldn't ever put my DS in a playpen because he screams blue murder but I would if I could!

Your dh was doing jobs instead of lounging around and you are moaning? How very odd

Btw YABU, and your dh deserves an apology from you

yabu.

Hmm - I wouldn't be pissed off about the playpen tbh, but what in fact the OP's DH did (as the garage was outside the house) was to transfer the responsibility for DS2 to the OP without asking her, while she was asleep, which actually is quite unreasonable. I sometimes get pissed off with DH if for example I leave him downstairs with DD2 when I go to do jobs upstairs, and then come down to find he has gone out to the shed without telling me, and I have been unwittingly made responsible for DD2 without knowing it.

I don't think it's a big deal. 15 minutes. To me that's nothing.

But I'm not you and how you feel is no less important than how I would feel in your situation, iyswim. You feel how you feel and that's your right.

I used my kids playpen to contain them for such periods - and to chuck them in when I'd had enough and needed to sod off to another room and bash a pillow

It's safe, it's secure, it's ideal for keeping them in one spot for a few minutes.