To wish DH would just leave me alone, for one day?

[CarmerKharma]

DH has just been to the shop. I asked him to buy some chocolate biscuits of some kind so he came back with penguins.

I know it sounds trivial but he does this kind of thing all the time, really small, subtle things that are designed to wind me up but are SO subtle that if I moan it sounds like I'm losing my marbles to anyone else.

Like bread, I asked him to buy some bread and he came back with white bread. I can't eat white and he knows this.

A while ago I asked him to get me a magazine to read (he knew what I meant) and he came back with a TV guide thing.

Writing this down just sounds so stupid but it's a passive aggressive thing, he does things DELIBRATELY to annoy or wind me up but why??

It sounds annoying but if/when dh does something like that I know it's not to wind me up. A woman could wind you up that way but surely that's way too subtle for a man

As said before S.P.E.L.L everything out or write it down. They just don't think things through like we do.

Tim Tams are really good for drinking your tea/coffee through if you bite diagonal corners off.

BISCUITS

Digestives
Custard creams
Bourbons
Malted milks
Fruit shortcake things

CHOCOLATE BARS

Penguins
Clubs
Trio
Tim Tams

what is wrong with you people?

No chocolate bars are Dairy Milk, Snickers, Mars Bars,Lion bar etc.

Hmm, I don't know about the penguins and the magazine but when you write that you cannot eat white bread then it is not good that he does not remember.

Do you have some kind of allergy? Does it make you ill?

Assuming this then yes, he is being unreasonable to bring white bread.

And penguins are most definately biscuits and as such are great for dipping in tea. If only I could buy them here

Yes they are chocolate bars too, just not the snack variety

They are biscuits! Biscuits I tell you.

I wouldn't sit in a cinema munching on penguins, I would however happily consume a chocolate bar aka a bar of Dairy Milk.

I'm with Sherby on this

learn & memorise, confused ones, we don't want to have to do this again

Note to self avoid Sherby and Lurker's homes when going trick or treating.

you get SWEETS if you trick or treat here

or a thick ear, depending on mood

Sweets you say? Most likely polo mints.

no haribo

I think there is more to this than meets the eye and that maybe we are taking the OP too literally. These are just 3 examples but presumably there are many more - she did say it happens a lot. That being the case it goes beyond incompetence and 'just being a man'. I wonder about AS because he seems to think he is doing the right thing. Either he that or he really is very stupid.

For what it is worth penguins are most definately biscuits - take the chocolate away and you are left with biscuit, as as a digestive

On the other hand Jaffa cakes, for all the world like a biscuit and in the biscuit aisle in Sainsburys are, in fact, cakes and quite obviously misplaced.

you ask for biscuits then you expect the blardy round things Hobnobs and the like.

He sounds a bit irritating to me. Sorry. Why do you think it's PA?

not much advice for the op here, is there?

unless she's confused about the classification of teatime treats

Think you are being a bit unreasonable- my DH would do this, and I wouldn't be surprised.

But, come on: penguins are DEFINITELY biscuits!! If I sent DH to the shop for a chocolate bar and he came home with a penguin biscuit, I would be hugely disappointed- THAT might be unreasonable

...I restate my point regarding taxation, and present evidence that the Jaffa cake is indeed a cake as proven in the high court

...I also doubt the structural ability of a jaffa cake to withstand dunking.

Are you sure you mean passive aggressive?

or just a bit incompetent. The smiling (unless smirking) sounds wrong for passive aggressive.

But I HATE PA's my FIL is one and he is a nasty coniving little man who goes out his way to upset people with a smirk.

biscuits....

bars.....

either way, KEEP 'EM OUT OF YOUR TEA!!

GROSSS!!!!!!

Higgle, my dh does the "putting dishes away wrong" thing.

Drives me nuts

YAB totally U

You ask him for stuff from the shop or a job doing and he obliges - OK so he gets it wrong so maybe you need to be more specific but at least he does stuff for you. If it's not to your liking then either spell it out for him or go to the shops yourself.

Biscuits are rather pointless if one can't dunk them.

pmsl at retiredgoth..Mrs Goth sounds like she was a fine woman.Is vegan yurt weekly a real publication?!Because I know someone who would LOVE a subscription for Christmas!

I feel sorry for this guy, he can't do right for doing wrong.
Give him a break, he might be a bit daft but he's trying to keep you happy.

But men do this all the time. It's not that they are thick, they just do it wrong so that you won't ask them again!!!

If you sdon't believe me, just ask a man to do the washing up.

Sherby NO!!!!

I refer you to my earlier post when the issue was clarified once and for all at a VERY early point in the proceedings.

By squeaver on Mon 03-Nov-08 14:29:56
No no no

Chocolate bars are Snickers, Mars bars etc

Chocolate biscuits are Penguins, Club etc etc

Chocolate digestives are chocolate digestives.

It's quite simple.