To wish DH would just leave me alone, for one day?

[CarmerKharma]

DH has just been to the shop. I asked him to buy some chocolate biscuits of some kind so he came back with penguins.

I know it sounds trivial but he does this kind of thing all the time, really small, subtle things that are designed to wind me up but are SO subtle that if I moan it sounds like I'm losing my marbles to anyone else.

Like bread, I asked him to buy some bread and he came back with white bread. I can't eat white and he knows this.

A while ago I asked him to get me a magazine to read (he knew what I meant) and he came back with a TV guide thing.

Writing this down just sounds so stupid but it's a passive aggressive thing, he does things DELIBRATELY to annoy or wind me up but why??

Technically a Penguin is a biscuit.But like the OP, if I requested chocolate biscuits I would be hoping for say, Bourbons at the very least, and ultimately, Double Chocolate chip luxury biscuits or somesuch..like a round biscuit in a packet, not a wrapped biscuit bar if you will..Is not the same thing..

....I shall add to the 'biscuit or not' debate.

It is my belief that having the status of 'biscuit' confers taxation advantages.

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...therefore, McVities have a vested interest in declaring a foodstuff such as a Penguin a 'biscuit' rather than a 'bar'. The latter has luxury item status and therefore is subject to VAT.

I hope this helps to clarify the matter.

to much chocolate to dip in tea

no contrast in taste like a choc digestive, a proper biscuit base is the essence of the biscuit

i know, have studied biscuits a long time

BREAD is annoying, don't they notice what you have been feeding them for 20 years? grr

But if you dip a wrapped type chocolate biscuit in tea, there is a lot of melted chocolate to lick off, mmm. (I don't like the middle bit of Penguins)

Clubs and penguins are both biscuits.

And now I have the 'If you like a lot of chocolate on your biscuit,join our club' jingle stuck in my head.

....you could keep the bar biscuit INSIDE the unopened wrapper during the dunking process.

..the Penguin is then subjected to the heat transformation process (facilitating chocolate licking) without sullying the hot beverage with unsightly gobbets.

Just a thought.

I's not a "men" thing. You make us sound completely unreasonable. It's a "giving clear instructions" thing.

I mean, god, what a b'stard. You asked him to go out and get some chocolate biscuits ad he went out and got some, and you moaned they were the wrong sort. if that had been me I'd have said "get your own chocolate biscuits next time."

You shouldn't dunk penguins, not exclusively, the dunking then has to be followed by taking a good drink of tea filtered through the biscuit, then the entire biscuit popped in one's mouth.

is that some new, down with the kids way of eating biscuits

Yes, it's probably "recreational".

No it's called the Tim Tam slam, it's an Australian thing I think, usually done with Tim Tams which are very similar to Penguins.

....the lovely (if fearsome) Mrs Goth would often request a magazine purchase.

She would always specify the required title.

...sadly, the requested publication would (usually) prove to be discontinued, thus presenting me with a bemusing choice.

....whether to get 'Vegetarian Cross-Stitch Monthly", when I had been asked to buy 'Vegan Yurt Embroidery'.

One thing was certain.

Whichever choice was made, it would be wrong!

Maybe he brought back ACUAL PENGUINS.

You know, the birds? Perhaps robbed a zoo?

YABU.

Your thread says that you want him to leave you alone. You asked him to go to the shop, he didn't just thrust these surprise purchases on you. To be fair, Penguins are close enough, and you can read the TV guide. No different to some of the trash they call magazines.

Love the idea of him bringing back REAL penguins. How much fun would that be? Boydog and Girldog would be thrilled with some penguins to play with.

(And Penguins are biscuits, not chocolate bars. Biscuits!)

CarmerKharma, he actually sounds really sweet. Do you really hate him that much for trying to please you and your mother with unexpected gifts? (even though they are shite)

anyway I still think a penguin is a biscuit...
a blue riband is a biscuit

Perhaps he likes white bread?

Given the choice my DH would buy white bread. I don't so I think he'd do that given the choice.

how about viscount
they are def biscuits

I am so disappointed with Penguins. Used to be treat as a child. They are very ordinary as I discovered when I bought them again recently. Ditto clubs

Another childhood memory trashed.

YABU - he's not being aggresive at all - he's just getting it wrong...a lot.
Passive agressive would be to say he would get you chocolate biscuits - and come back with nothing.
He's goes and gets it doesn't he?
I have a similar issue with DH - he HAD to do the shopping this w/e - my mum was looking after the kids & I'd promised to get enough food in for a roast. Off he went, list in hand, neatly written with very clear instructions AND in the order that he would walk round the shop.
Cam home with 4 bags worth. Me: Manage to get everything?
Him: Oh yes, except for a couple of bits
Me: Great, thanks honey you're fab.
Later that night Mum calls: Right I've done the chilli for tonight - what shall I do tomorrow?
Me to DH: Honey where's the meat for tomorrow?
DH: I told you, there was a couple of tihngs I couldn't get
Me: So what should mum cook
DH: There are loads of carrots

!!!!!!! Honestly, he couldn't see the problem!

Is this just a variation of my DH who doesn't seem to realise he puts everything in the kitchen in a different cupboard each time he clears up but resoloutely refuses to accept he does this?

you can dip it in your tea, you nibble one corner then opposite side corner, put in tea and suck

that is funny, my exp never had the chance to getb things wrong as I always explaned them in detail. maybe he is just like other men and stupid and lazy lol

Falcon - I am drooling at the mere mention of Tim Tams. A Penguin is a poor alternative, I say.

I think he sound's really sweet and don't get the passive/aggressive thing at all.

It also sound's quite typically male to me. They just need things pointed/spelt out for them. DH last night when he was running the DCs bath for example:

DH: "where's the bubble bath?"

Me: "er, right next to the taps you just turned on, the big bottle that says BUBBLE BATH on it"