To wish DH would just leave me alone, for one day?

[CarmerKharma]

DH has just been to the shop. I asked him to buy some chocolate biscuits of some kind so he came back with penguins.

I know it sounds trivial but he does this kind of thing all the time, really small, subtle things that are designed to wind me up but are SO subtle that if I moan it sounds like I'm losing my marbles to anyone else.

Like bread, I asked him to buy some bread and he came back with white bread. I can't eat white and he knows this.

A while ago I asked him to get me a magazine to read (he knew what I meant) and he came back with a TV guide thing.

Writing this down just sounds so stupid but it's a passive aggressive thing, he does things DELIBRATELY to annoy or wind me up but why??

Thinking, hmm...she wants the washing line to be higher, so fixing it to 10ft poles and genuinely thinking that this will please sounds a lot like Aspergers. If it is, then you DEFINITELY have to be much more specific.

My DH lives in fear of those times when I send him to the shops for 'a bar of chocolate...surprise me' - because no matter what he brings home I am always faintly disappointed! (It is a joke in our relationship BTW) Moral of the story: If you want something specific then tell him, and if you think he is incapable of getting it right then do it yourself.

You have bigger problems than this though don't you? Do you actually like and resepct him

what does he do for a living? How is he at social gatherings?

he has no friends, avoids nights out and parties etc. Always says odd things at my families house so not many of them like him.

He's a crane driver.

Ok, how was he at school? Does he tend to take things people say literally? Does he have any odd physical mannerisms? DOes he have obsessive interests (ie can bore for England on, say, trains)?

Dear god, I never say to hubby 'surprise me' with chocolate - cos I'd be hoping for nice small box and he would come home with a mars bar

again faint disappointment like theprovinciallady

Just to add before I go and pick DD up, I don't send him to shop constantly. I've not been well and he's taken a week off work so he's been doing the errands.

Thanks for the replies so far, will check back later.

Prof Simon Baron Cohen says that autism is an extreme form of maleness...

I'm not saying it is Asperger's just that from the little I've read the possibility of Aspergers comes to mind.

This is interesting - blog written by a person with autism talking about taking things literally:

here

I think the OP should read Loving Mr Spock.

A penguin isn't a biscuit.

It is a biscuit.

Definitely a biscuit.

Everybody 'If you like a lot of chocolate on your biscuit join our club!'
(under 40s all look baffled)

you can't dip it in your tea, therefore, not a biscuit

mabana I am 33 and understand you, don't feel bad

mabanana

that's clubs not penguins

What is the fundamental difference between, say a Club and a Penguin that makes one a biscuit and one a....what, exactly? Hmm? THis is a Very Important Issue.

Why can't you dip a Penguin in tea? (Biscuit ones, not birds..) I don't like Penguins, myself, I am overdosing on twirls.

Just to clarify, a Penguin is a biscuit, macvitie's say it's a biccie, wiki says so too, its also been voted biscuit of the week, and you can dip it in your tea (i do)

Mabanana - 36 and singing along..
Lurker - why can you not dip it in your tea??!!
Carm - would just be extremely specific from now on, on a post it note stock to his hand preferably

I can understand the bread and magazine complaint, but not the Penguin one. Send them my way if you don't like them!