To think of severely punishining my six year old son

[Reallytired]

My son is nearly seven years old and is in year 2.

This week he has lost his coat, a sweatshirt, a pair of £40 clarks shoes, his PE kit and left his book bag at school. He just does not seem to care. He has lost approximately £60 worth of stuff.

My husband has been fishing things out of lost property three times this week. It has been like this every week and we are fed up. I feel my son needs a shock to learn some responsiblity.

I have told him that if he does not bring everything home he will be severely punished. The problem is thinking of a suitable punishment. I want him to remember the punishment and for it to be related to the large cost of all the items lost.

I am thinking of making him miss his mad science playscheme if he does not find his stuff. Afterall if money has to be found to pay for new shoes then its only reasonable my son loses a pleasure. We just don't have the money to be constantly buying new stuff. Or should I make him sell some of his toys to pay for the stuff he has lost?

Or am I being excessively mean?

He needs some strategies to help him remember IMO, rather than punishments for forgetting - as at 6yo forgetting things is par for the course.

not you particularly cheesesarnie, although i do think taking the piss out of the op on posts is out of order, no need for it.

I think that people taking the piss out of posts is part of mumsnet. You know the expression "If you can't take the heat stay out of a kitchen"

Anyway, my son in the end got little more than a large telling off. Mircalously he found most the items except one sweatshirt. He hasn't been bullied, but most the clothes had dropped on the floor and he could not be bothered to look.

I still disagree with rewarding children for what is expected of them. I think some parents are too afraid to tell their offspring off with the result that they never learn to look after their belongings at secondary school age.

I tell my ds off with monotonous regularity, and he still loses stuff at school (he is year 8); that's why he's not allowed to take his mobile or i-pod to school.