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To think I should be able to have a council house?

383 replies

frustratedmumof3 · 22/10/2008 20:18

Ho hum - must stop my addiction to MN as will not have time from next week so my cunning plan is to piss off as many people as possible so I will be frightened to come on here .

So, my local council are building lots of lovely new council or housing association (don't care what they are) homes in my area with brand spanking new kitchens, bathrooms, lovely new carpets etc, etc and I am thinking why should the so-called vulnerable members of society (who are most probably going to wreck the places) be higher on the housing list than us.

We rent privately (since we sold our house 2 years ago as could not afford the mortgage) and I don't see that we will ever be able to afford another house. We pay well over a grand for a 3 bed (3DCs) and have the insecurity of potentially having to move every 6 months at the owners whim which is the worst thing (have already moved 3 times since started renting).

It really makes me mad that quite a few of DCs friends have council houses where they pay only 350 per month and probably earn similar wages to us (the ones that work that is). What makes them deserve one more than us? I know damn well that we will not get one of the new homes as there are about 5000 people in the queue before us and they will probably go to single parents, immigrants and and generally useless members of society who do not work and have no intention of doing so. We pay our taxes and would appreciate any help we were given (as we need it now) but will get sweet FA. Makes me want to scream!! This thread may be unusual as I am not dissing council house tenants as I desperately want to be one (in a new build anyway).

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FAQ · 23/10/2008 23:32

lol @ witcheseve

(although where she's living now she could be living next to someone like me - single mum on benefits, but still in "owner occupied" housing......)

electra · 23/10/2008 23:41

What an unpleasant OP

I haven't read the whole thread but think I should step away from it.

witcheseve · 23/10/2008 23:43

Oh well looks like she's gone, for now.

spookycharlotte121 · 23/10/2008 23:48

hello frustrated mum. I am one of the dregs of society that you describe.... single mum... scum of the earth.... ooooh and did I mention that Im only 20 with 2 kids and ooooh shock horror Im not with their dad anymore either.... I gots me a council house too!!!

However.... Im a uni student. Have got myself a foundation degree and am compleeting the full degree this year. I was living with my mum. Me and ds were sharing a room at my mums house. me and my mum fell out. she threw me out... I lived with me sister and slept on her sofa. I was heavily pregnant and got a really bad back from sleeping on the sofa. Exp was being a nasty piece of work... stealing all my money, being abusive and genearly making me feel worthless. I needed my flat to make a freash start.
My flat was and still is a dump. The council stripped it right back to the orriginal decoration when they gave it to me. There were no carpets on the floor and the kitchen was falling to pieces. When I get spare money I do decorating and tart the place up a little more..... yes.... these council houses you describe sound like palaces...

You dont really sound like you need or deserve a council property tbh.

electra · 23/10/2008 23:54

I love the way the OP likes to use comments like 'much loved' to suggest that because her marriage hasn't fallen apart she is more virtuous, loves her children more than single parents and is somehow superior to others and has more rights and should be treated differently How fascist can one be?

Crikey. I'm very glad I don't think like you. I don't want to spend my time harbouring nasty little thoughts about people whose lives I know nothing about - it is bad for the soul. There but for the grace of god go you...

ShyBaby · 23/10/2008 23:54

Oh deary me, yet another dig at lone parents. Whatever shall I do?

Oh I know, I could laugh my arse off because i've heard it (counts on fingers because im quite obviously as thick as shit)...100 times?

As you were.

ShyBaby · 23/10/2008 23:56

Adds a [yawn] for good measure.

Overmydeadbody · 23/10/2008 23:58

Thank you shelley and harley!

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frustratedmumof3 · 23/10/2008 23:59

Errr yeah - childcare for 2 babies and afterschool care for another does not leave much change from 1200 pounds (and that's with a sibling discount). Is that unusual when so many people on here think they should live on benefits because 'they want to bring their kids up themselves' when I did not want the stress of a full time job and two babies and a school age child (DH worked his butt off but financially it f'ed us).

And we CANNOT AFFORD OVER 1000 A MONTH RENT (that is what this thread is about fuckwits) we have no choice and have little time for family fun and BUDGET every penny and still have nothing to show for it!!

Blimey if you MNers are snapshot of this country who think that people who fuck up their lives (mostly self inflicted-not talking about people with disabled kids here although I know some who do work) should be handed everything on a plate (and I don't think living in a crap house for a few years before getting handed a decent one with a tenancy for life is too bad a trade off)while people who contribute something can't get help when they need it - then no wonder this country has gone to the dogs (plenty on here)!

Anyway - I probably do need counselling now and am a very sad person after reading all this but thankfully can go back to RL and forget about it. I am sure there are plenty of other people in my situ that feel the same but do not have have the guts to say it on here! Well I did because I don't care what you lot think of me .

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frustratedmumof3 · 24/10/2008 00:03

Am not here anymore - so call me all the names you want - really, really don't dn't give a SHITTTTT.

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harleyd · 24/10/2008 00:04

you are an arse

FAQ · 24/10/2008 00:04

you're a fucking bitch and need to open your eyes and see the fucking world around you - and realise your "perfect" little family probably isn't anywhere near as perfect as you think it is.

And that one day it could be YOU who is the single mother (who isn't widowed).........

harleyd · 24/10/2008 00:07

faq you said it much better than i did

hatrickortreat · 24/10/2008 00:08

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fangdom · 24/10/2008 00:08

Theres a lot live in their ivory towers on here
.... good for them drawers curtains in council house ..sticks finger up

spookycharlotte121 · 24/10/2008 00:13

So out of interest frustrated mum would you say my situation wouldnt deserve a council flat?
Ds was miserable when I lived with my mum, he is a totally different child now. Much happier. That is priceless but Im greatful that I have had the oppertunity to offer him a normal stable home rather than a corner of a bedroom in my mums house.

Tortington · 24/10/2008 00:14

so does fm3 own her house then

i am confused.

tax credits - i presume?

harleyd · 24/10/2008 00:14

i think she's on a wind up

FAQ · 24/10/2008 00:15

no you don't charlotte - because you made bad life decision by getting together with and having children with/by him.......... (apparently)

Tortington · 24/10/2008 00:20

well i gotta say it was a piece of piss when dh and i went to uni with 3 kids under five - him working nights on security 7 days a week - no minimum wage then ( small violin) and me working part time packing posters for 2p a tube self employed - y'know so the factory owner could screw the tax.

spookycharlotte121 · 24/10/2008 00:27

quick FAQ smack my bottom whilst I bend over Just so you know exp has super sperm... they could get a man pregnant It wasnt my fault that I got my sprogs.... but i love them and quite often have the urge to bite them.

TinkerBellesMum · 24/10/2008 01:35

anniemac (I?m sure this is going to many others on this thread too, I?m amazed at the amount of ignorance that has come up on this thread again just since my last post) anyone can get a HA or council property whatever their circumstances so the ?for life? bit is irrelevant really as are your ?unfair? comments. I?ve already pointed out within this thread that my HA has an estate (it?s not unusual either) that is for key workers only so I?m not sure how that fits in your view of social landlords.

frustratedmumof3 not everyone who doesn?t work could, some of us would love to work but can?t. I?d love to but my health has prevented me for a long time. In the meantime I make use of my time helping out at the HA. After going into labour this week (at 25 weeks) I have had to call them and stop my work for awhile, I wouldn?t have such flexibility in a job to be as ill as I am.

StewieGriffinsMom · 24/10/2008 08:34

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NorthernLurker · 24/10/2008 16:54

hmmmm - frusratedmumof3 - can I ask exactly how many children you have and what are their ages? It's just that here you are laying claim to have two children at nursery and 1 in after school care. But on another thread you've mentioned having to drop off at least one child at primary school and a dd at secondary school. On yet another thread you've mentioned you were a sahm for 6 years due to twins - which implies to me (and do correct me if I'm wrong) that they are now at school. But if they are then who is at nursery? And if your twins are at nursery and your dd at secondary school then who is at primary school?