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To think I should be able to have a council house?

383 replies

frustratedmumof3 · 22/10/2008 20:18

Ho hum - must stop my addiction to MN as will not have time from next week so my cunning plan is to piss off as many people as possible so I will be frightened to come on here .

So, my local council are building lots of lovely new council or housing association (don't care what they are) homes in my area with brand spanking new kitchens, bathrooms, lovely new carpets etc, etc and I am thinking why should the so-called vulnerable members of society (who are most probably going to wreck the places) be higher on the housing list than us.

We rent privately (since we sold our house 2 years ago as could not afford the mortgage) and I don't see that we will ever be able to afford another house. We pay well over a grand for a 3 bed (3DCs) and have the insecurity of potentially having to move every 6 months at the owners whim which is the worst thing (have already moved 3 times since started renting).

It really makes me mad that quite a few of DCs friends have council houses where they pay only 350 per month and probably earn similar wages to us (the ones that work that is). What makes them deserve one more than us? I know damn well that we will not get one of the new homes as there are about 5000 people in the queue before us and they will probably go to single parents, immigrants and and generally useless members of society who do not work and have no intention of doing so. We pay our taxes and would appreciate any help we were given (as we need it now) but will get sweet FA. Makes me want to scream!! This thread may be unusual as I am not dissing council house tenants as I desperately want to be one (in a new build anyway).

OP posts:
witcheseve · 23/10/2008 23:10

Re, your quote about single mums, your words echo that of my DD's dad's new girlfriend who had not long had his second child. She said something similar to me so I replied there before the grace of god etc. When he cheated on her I tried not to be smug.She was young at the time. They are not happily married and she did apologise once she'd grown up. I suggest you try growing up yourself.

BTW I'm a single mum who had hasn't had to sell my house because I couldn't afford the mortgage, never rented or asked the council for a house .

Overmydeadbody · 23/10/2008 23:12

Guess who's just been offered a new build HA flat?!

I'm no longer going to be homeless!

witcheseve · 23/10/2008 23:13

'Now happily married' not 'not happily married'.

witcheseve · 23/10/2008 23:14

Congrat OMDB. I bet you deserve it, unlike some people I could mention.

matildax · 23/10/2008 23:15

im in a secure relationship now,(and have 2dcs from this relationship) but was a single parent for 10 years prior to this, and would like to add, where the f**k are the guarantees in any relationship???

what are you saying??? that the majority of single parents chose to be single parents??? ffs sort your rather stupid opinions out eh???

and as for your sex life.........if its alright with you, i would really rather not know to be honest

oh and one more thing, my ex, was at first charming, and very pleasant, how i was to know he would turn into a living nightmare???

fuck me perhaps i should take up mind reading before having a relationship!!!!

now fuck off fmo3 you silly ignorant twat.

Overmydeadbody · 23/10/2008 23:16

thank you witches

harleyd · 23/10/2008 23:17

you are renting for a grand a month? how much was your freaking mortgage
surely housing benefit is for people who really need it, not for those who just think oh well i pay my taxes, im as deserving
ive only read the op and im sure things have moved on, but i dont care..how dare you judge single parents or immigrants as being useless members of society who do not work and have no intention of doing so

FAQ · 23/10/2008 23:18

"it could be suggested that they should have got to know their partner before having kids to make sure (a) they both wanted them (b) they were not feckless, drug addicts or alcoholics and (c) they wanted to spend their life with them. But that is just my disgusting, outrageous opinion and speaking as someone very happily married for 15 years"

How fucking dare you.

I did get to know him before we married

a) he wanted kids (perhaps not DS3 - but I did take the MAP......)
b) he wasn't feckless when I met him, or a drug addict, or an alcoholic.
c) I wanted to spend my life with him.

If you'd have been around to read my threads just at the start of this year you'll see how utterly devastated I was that my marriage was over. I didn't want to be a single mother - but you know what - life is shit sometimes - and often unpredictable.

We also had a plan in life (actually I've had 2 onto my 3rd now - but I never imagined that my carefully laid out plans would change while on my year out after school, or that they would again be forced to change nearly 10yrs later)

Original poster
frustratedmumof3 · 23/10/2008 23:18

Why don't you fuck off and stop reading if it grates on you so much.

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FAQ · 23/10/2008 23:19

OMDB - that's fantastic

When do you move?

FAQ · 23/10/2008 23:20

oh and fwiw - you have no need to sorry for my DS's - they're doing just fine........

shelleylou · 23/10/2008 23:22

People and their relationships change. Hence having single parents

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frustratedmumof3 · 23/10/2008 23:22

witcheseve - had twins (much loved) so had to be a SAHM for 6 years that is why we are in this situation so up yours!

matildax - the sex life reference was due to be called a vicegirl actually and it not something I would normally have thought about.

OP posts:
Overmydeadbody · 23/10/2008 23:22

FAQ next week hopefully, as soon as the builders are finished! Am so excited.

Just ignore FMO3, she is not worth it.

FAQ · 23/10/2008 23:23

you had to be a SAHM for 6yrs because you had twins

FAQ · 23/10/2008 23:24

fantastic - have to confess i've missed much of your story (MN so big these days easy to miss stuff} but glad things are on the up - I'm sure your landlord will let you stay another week

witcheseve · 23/10/2008 23:24

Well you should have thought about all eventualities that happen in life before you bought your house then!

harleyd · 23/10/2008 23:25

omdb, thats brilliant, i remember briefly speaking to you a while back

alloutofcrazy · 23/10/2008 23:25

Yes I had a feeling this was about single parents all along.

Think the OP wanted the reaction so she could vent as much as she wanted about single parents.

Don't think your marriage is as strong as you make out frustratedmumof3.Doth protest too much.

shelleylou · 23/10/2008 23:26

My ds is actually a lot better of without constant contact with his father. XP changing caused our split and those changes had by far more a negative effect on ds then just me bringing him up. He is a happy, healthy, loving little boy due to me.

matildax · 23/10/2008 23:27

doesnt grate on me actually, infact i love a good scrap!!

just think you should get your facts straight before you attack people.

you have absolutely no idea what you are talking about.

the words, completely fucking ignorant, spring to mind.

shelleylou · 23/10/2008 23:28

OMBD Congratulations on the house. Really pleased for you

witcheseve · 23/10/2008 23:30

I really think you should scrap the idea of living in social housing, you won't get on with the neighbours. It's clearly not for you.

FAQ · 23/10/2008 23:31

oh and staying together doesn't mean the children will any better off - my parents made that mistake...admittedly things did improve by the time I was about 12 - but the damage was already done.......

Still together now 36yrs later.....although that last time I spoke to them it was pretty evident that actually both would have been happier (not to mention me and my DB) if they'd split 20 odd years ago.......

shelleylou · 23/10/2008 23:31

Thats true witches they can be so lovely and helpful