To hate the passive-agressive "are you ok?" tack people take on AIBU threads?

[thisismynewname]

You know...someone is arguing a point, and someone else will come along and say something like "you seem quite upset about this, have you sought any help? I only say this because I care."

Bollocks is it said because they care, it's a transparent attempt to undermine the poster and really very rude.

oh I remember a quote from a world famous rock climber, who when asked who was the best rock climber in the world, he replied "The one who is having most fun".

This probably goes for sex as well, n'est-ce pas?

Non

C'est pas le meme chose, parce-que celui ci est 'getting on rocks' et celui la est 'getting one's rocks off'

Ah buggeur. j'ai tue la thread avec une pun terrible.

Non. J'ai ri.

Moi aussi.

Plus ca change, plus c'est la meme chose.

as the French neve say.

is 'Passive agressive' new-speak for 'I want to turn what you have said on its head to suit my argument?'

Here is a thought, maybe they actually do care?

Just a thought?

and possibly you might need a quiet lie down?

the passive-aggressive thing IS often misunderstood, and applied.
It says something akin to "I really care..but..I am going to show you how much I DON'T care by NOT doing something (passive) that you need, so that you get the message that you are not important enough.(aggressive)." Organisations, esp. managers are really good at this.