To refuse to feed my 3 month old nephew with puree?

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Was round at SIL and BIL house at the weekend. They decided to wean at 3 months, fine - their choice. It's not one I'd make myself but it's not my business.

However, SIL asked me to feed the baby whilst she was making lunch. I really, really didn't want to do it - I just don't want to be a part of it.

Was IBU to refuse?

And I agree with the OP, would everyone on this thread also smack a child if their SIL was too busy? Or the analogy with travelling without a car seat.
I think there is a huge difference between weaning before 6 months and weaning when the baby is this tiny.

charlotte, your baby doesn't need the food at that age.... it's perfectly normal for babies at that age to start drinking alot more milk. ds was 8lb10 when born and was at the top of the centiles at all times, he grew out of BTP nappies at 5/6 months he was so big and he managed just fine without solids until he stole a potato from my plate at 22 weeks and we started BLW.

i fed dd solids early in an attempt to ease her reflux (which didn't work ) but even at 4.5 month you could tell it was early for her to be eating and she couldn't manage it very well at all...... i can't even comprehend how you could shovel slop into a 3 month olds mouth and not fully expect to see them choke on it..... a 3 month old is still a newborn fgs.

as for all this nonsense about 'guidlines change all the time'... yes they do, and they always go up, never down. the research is starting to suggest that even 6 months may be too young, the next jump is going to be telling us that 7/8 months is the ideal age. babies simply do not need solid food until they are able to grasp it themselves and feed themselves as nature intended.

Guidelines changed once.

I havent actually read the whole of this thread, just the OP because of how long it is, i just wanted to tell you my circumstances and just give (maybe) the other side of it

My son was born with a heart condition, a heart valve that was too small and a whole in his heart, i started to wean him, giving him baby rice and then purees and then baby porrige, at six weeks because him suckling put so much strain on his heart, of course i had spoken to my hv about this first.

i wouldnt have done it unless i really felt he needed it (although i do think that 6 months is a bit long for some babies)

i do love my son and would never have done anything to hurt him, i breastfeed him until 9 months and have done every thing i can for him! im not a bad mum, just doing what needed to be done for my child, every child has different needs.

Mum2OliverJames medical conditions aside there is no reason why any baby can't wait to six months or even longer.

I forgot a reason, the parents get bored of milk

I can suggest another reason, in the case of my 3 totally BF babies, (I can't give them formula), they were weaned as follows:

Baby 1 - big and hungry. Guidelines were 16 weeks at the time. Weaned him at 16 weeks to the day - up till then had been feeding him round the clock, desperately tired, him desperately hungry and no longer gaining weight. Never looked back.

Baby2 - smaller girl. Began weaning with a heavy heart (because by then I knew what a farking faff it all is) at 16 weeks, according to the guidelines. When the 6 month guidelines came in a few months later I was annoyed, she'd have gone to 6 months and I could have saved myself some effort.

Baby3 - hoped to wean at 6 months but by 16 weeks he was failing to gain weight, I was feeding as much as I could but it was obvious that he wasn't getting enough. And yes I tried and tried and having breastfed now for, oh, over five years of my life I do know I did what I could.

Breastmilk should be enough to last for 6 months. But not all of us manage to produce enough or of sufficient quality to manage that.

I was certainly not bored with it.

TBM Its that attitude that I find really un-helpful tbh. Im not 'bored' with milk at all, I know its best for my baby. Its also a lot bloody easier and im all for an easy life.

As I said earlier when I choose to wean my dd is up to me based on information I have read and looking at my dd's development.

I hope to wait until 6 months, another month of milk will be fine with me, but I'll wean her when I think she is ready.

sometimes people just want a chat and I'm all for looking up guidelines and checking out research as any sensible person should be but that sounded a bit sanctimonius to me and a bit unecessary, no one on this thread has talked about weaning early as being a good thing, no one has said lets all give our babies rusks at 2 weeks old.

I stand by my earlier point that the guidelines say 'around' 6 months, it may, in some circ, be reasonable to think aboout weaning a bit earlier or a bit later than that

FUCK THIS IS ON THE WRONG THREAD im getting my weaning knickers all in a strop sorry

It was supposed to go on the other thread about possible weaning at 5 months not 3. That is not my argument. Oh sod it I think ill give up now............

Haven't read all, but my tuppence worth is that the OP isn't asking about how to get her SIL to change her mind or how awful her SIL is because she is weaning at 3 months, she is saying that she is uncomfortable with actually feeding a baby so young, which I feel she has every right to feel and to excuse herself from doing it. As the OP has done this without forcing her views on her SIL then OP YANBU.