To not let 8 year old dd go on week long school trip??

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She is supposed to be going tomorrow till friday.

I really dont want her to for 2 reasons, 1) she is beginning to get very mouthy with a bad attitude and she pushed me too far on friday so i told her she wasn't going under any circumstances as she didn't deserve it and 2) my lovely little baby nephew passed away just over a week ago and it has made me very possesive over my DC.

I REALLY dont want her to go and fear if she did i would have some sort of breakdown as there is no way of reaching them once they have gone, also most of the kids that went last year got food poisoning and the parents were not informed and there was a big uproar about it.

If she didn't go though I would probably feel guilty as her friends are going.

I'm not sure what to do now!!

sorry to say this but you need to get a grip of this.

If the children who have bullied your dd were moved class because of it then the school are obviously well aware of the issues.

Presumably the classes have both gone on the trip hence these children being there as well.

I understand your frustrations but you cannot possibly expect these two children to be excluded from anything that is going to include your dd.

Yes I can, it has been going on for over a year, physically and mentally, I DO NOT want my daughter near them as they are horrible.

Sorry should I just turn a blind eye and let my daughter be picked on? She has been punched in the stomach and slapped around the face by the girl and the boy touched her between the legs. Yes get a grip indeed

Sorry If i seem a bit defensive but I am worried sick!! The school should know better, incidents have been reported over and over (took me 5 complaints before they got off their arses and did anything), my daughter is an easy target for them as she is very trusting so if they say they are friends she believes them and then they turn on her again and she gets very upset, mummys cuddles make it all better

I'm sorry, that was totally bang out of order(frustration post) I'm not myself lately since I had DD and even more so since DN, im very very sorry.

I'm just so scared/worried/got horrible gut feeling/bawling my eyes out and want her back

What did you expect school to do? Exclude them from the trip?

Well done for letting her go though. I'm sure she will have a lovely time and Friday will be here very soon!

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Have a as well!

This mummy lark is jolly hard isn't it?

Well on the letter it said Class 4N not year 4 so i thought it was just her class and then the other class would have gone next week IYSWIM If it would have said year 4 i wouldn't have let her go for this exact reason.

Definatly!!!!

oh dear hon you have had so much to deal with I do really feel for you
But she will be fine she really will be - you cant give her mummys cuddles forever to make evrything better though I know you want to
She will be back before you know it but you need to let her go just a little - terrible tragedies happen but we cant wrap our children in cotton wool forever ...

If you've made the school aware that there have been problems, then I'm sure that they will put them in separate bedrooms and groups.
IT WILL BE FINE!!!!! School trips are always worse for the mums (and dads) left behind. DD will be having a blast.

I hope so but if i find out that either of them have done anything whe nshe gets back there will be hell to pay

Oh you poor thing, it is hard. Sending lots of hugs.

But this is part of her growing up, she must start facing life on her own eventually, without Mummy's cuddles. Part of our role as parents is as enablers, the people who help them to go into life on their own. We can't hold them back forever.

Please, please, please do not spend your time anticipating trouble for her. It is about your own feelings at this difficult time, you must not let that become part of her life's burden.

Of course bullying must be dealt with- but by disciplinary measures, not by you thinking of her as a baby that only you can protect. Remember, puberty may only be a couple of years away; she will gradually want her own independence. It won't be nice for either of you if she feels she has to break away.

Even for bullied children (or as in my case, for a disabled child in chronic pain and with a high accident risk), staying a baby is not a solution. Modelling courage is.

You have been really brave to let her go; now think about doing something for you. You need help; you can't spend the week just worrying. Have you got company? Have you got anything to do?