To think this childminder was being bang out of order?

[VictorianSqualorSquelchNSquirm]

Just picked DS up from nursery. One of his classmates was picked up by the childminder and I overheard the conversation as we walked behind them.

CM: Your mum has given you spaghetti bolognese for lunch.
BOY:Ok.
CM: It's not okay really, why did she give you that? It's not the best idea for lunch, what do I have to do now?
BOY:I don't know.
CM: Well, it's not helping me is it? Nice of her to think about me when she made your lunch. You're going to have to sit in the highchair, like that babies, in the kitchen, no way I'm having you sat in my living room on my cream carpet eating that.

Anyway, she was still going on at him when she walked off.
Surely she should keep her gob shut and mention it to the mother?
AND if she can't cater for a child to have their lunch then she should reconsider her job?

Sorry. I know it's none of my business but I felt really sorry for this kid. He hadn't done anything wrong yet was getting a combination of a lecture and someone slagging off his mum!

Misshardbroom the thing you overheard was not unpleasant, just a statement of fact and you have no idea how frustrating it is when parents send children(knowing you are going to a country walk) in a lovely cotton dress that is white They then seem horrified that said dress is dirty/ripped/etc. How can children climb well in dresses. The other brilliant one is long sleeved trousers, top on a boiling hot day, without a sun hat

So yes I have also commented on the ridiculous (lovely and impracticle) clothes that parents send their dcs in.

I don't so much have an issue with childminders changing the children into something more appropriate, because as mytetherisending says, that makes sense.

But I still do think two things are bad - firstly criticising the child's parents in front of them, and secondly the 'tell them they spilt juice on it' part when it's not true. What sort of an example does that set for the child? And what's wrong with saying 'hope you don't mind that I changed him/her, but we were going for a muddy walk and I was worried that she'd ruin that beautiful dress'??

Its a shame that a crap CM like this will taint other fantastic childmiders.

Completely agree miss hardbroom, you should always be honest or it could bite you on the bum

YANBU, she should not have been moaning to the kid about his mum. Does she not have a table?
Who on earth has a cream carpet under a dinning room table anyway (if she has one).
If it was that messy, why not let him eat it on a small table in the kitchen?
Sounds like she just lets the older ones eat off the floor or something .
I've already laid kitchen grade laminate in my dinning room in anticipation of lots of mess on the floor when i start childminding