To worry for this baby?

[Onestonetogo]

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pingping, that is exacly my though. Poor Maddie has never been found and people still risk the same for their child?

Hi i'm new on here can you help me out? i'm trying to frigure this site out.

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OP can see how you feel about this but probably best to do something about it. Good luck.

You would feel even more guilty if the baby was killed by fire while his mum was off galavanting.

Get it reported.

Not sure it should wait that long.
I would ring SSD. You will feel bad.
I had to report something once outside of my work and I felt awful. But sometimes you have to stand and be counted, a baby's life is at risk here,

at your HV

Please please please get in touch with SS if you haven't already done so.

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i really think you are doing the wr6ng thing here. this really needs SS involve0ent.

I would walk past her house and if the baby was in the pushchair unattended I would ring the police. This thread just makes me want to cuddle my 20wk old and never put him down. That poor baby!

Ebb - I agree. In fact, I would walk past her house every day until I got the opportunity to call the police. Or drive and then sit in the car while you call them.

Sorry to be a biit harsh but so many people have told you to ring social services and you haven't. This poor baby could be killed. She wouldn't even notice if somebody just walked off with her baby in the street if she is not even watching it. How would you feel if the poor baby was taken from the pavement when it was left there? I know the baby is the mums responsability but she obviously isn't taking care of it so you NEED to do something.

I'll give you a slightly different perspective, onestonetogo.

We left DS1 in his bed at night whislt DH ran me to hospital (I was pregnant, and DH thought I was having a placental abruption. He thougth the baby woulod die waiting for the ambulance). DH was gone for approx 10 mins.

I told the midwife this and she reported me (yes, still riles, DH left blameless) to SS.

Anyway, despite intervention of community midwife SS came calling and they were really nice. it was honestly a cup of tea and a lengthy chat. The SS girls said whenever they've had a serious case, it's often been neglect/abuse etc that's gone on for a long, long time that no-one's noticed. They'd much rather get involved at an early stage.

My friend who is a paeditrician says that when she has to involve SS, the parents are rarely evil child-bashing monsters. Mostly, they're just using parenting 'techniques' that are way out of date, inherited from ill-informed grandparents.

Don't hesitate to call SS sooner rather than later. They'll be nice, I promise.

woops, pressed post too early.

We used apalling judgement (car could have been crushed and no-one would have been aware of DS1 alone).

Yes, I was mortifingly embarrased that we had an SS visit, but TBH I'm glad they took a child's welfare so seriously.

One stone you must ring.
IF you live in my area - Gwent - I will do it for you. This need sorting.

Are you just stringing us along?

Why wont you just call SS and get it sorted. If she is leaving the baby on the pavement and not in the garden it looks like she wants someone to take it. She may have PND and this is a cry for help which SS can give her.

Come on, pick up the phone.

Is anyone else starting to think that maybe the op has exagerated what has actually happened???

I can't see how (if it's true) that someone would be concerned enough to post the question on mumsnet and then not do what everyone clearly thinks should be done????

Worrying thread, where is the OP now?

I'm really worried about this baby too. Onestonetogo-please speak to social services. You're not letting anyone down, you'll be doing the best thing possible, and ss will know how to treat a situation like this. The baby is in danger and you could save its life.

From another angle.
Does she want the baby (horrible thought),
it seems to leave your dc outside own house for fresh air (never done it alone or ever ever would by the way) is one thing but why on the pavement.
Really think she wants to be found out. need to call for help from ss or police.
how sad for baby.

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Does she live in a bedsit? Is that why she is leaving the baby in the street?
She is lucky no-one has stolen the baby yet.
Also the all-night thing is a big no-no.
Does she not have any relatives nearby?
SS need to be brought in and fast!

Sorry crossed post. Well done for calling them.

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Well well done you for calling ss. I think you've done the right thing. At least if anything happened to the baby, God forbid, then you know you tried your best to help prevent it.

I hope the mother gets the help and support she obviously needs and that the baby is taken care of properly.

As for your friend finding out, I think ss must be used to dealing with this kind of thing anonymously so I wouldn't worry. At the end of the day the baby's welfare is the main priority.