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To be unsettled by sight of mother/nanny stripping 4 year old girls in public?

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Sycamoretree · 29/09/2008 11:26

Not sure if AIBU is the best place to post, but here goes. My DD (3) goes to baby ballet one afternoon a week. After her class, the 4 year olds go in. She's been going for 4 weeks now, and every week, withouth fail, there is a woman (mother or nanny, not sure) who strips two little girls (4ish) absolutely butt naked on a bench outside the church hall in order to get them ready for their glass. My heart leaps into my mouth every time. I suppose my objections are:

  1. It's a bit nippy now, actually.
  2. They are 4. Not 4 months. Why is she taking off their pants to do ballet? Why is she doing it when a gazzillion people are walking by. Specifically 7 year old school boys at it's 3.45 who are actually stopping to point and laugh. Why doesn't she wait until they're upstairs and chance them in the studio like everyone else?
  3. Erm, that's it. They are literally standing head to toe naked in the street.

Am I over reacting. I get upset everytime I see it. I THINK she's a mum, this is just a hunch, because she's not really dressed in the practical way nannie's tend to be (i.e. she's in knee high boots with a bit of a heel, tights, skirt etc).

I'm actually hoping you all say IABU because then I can just try and relax about it.

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Sycamoretree · 29/09/2008 20:30

Steady horse mum - I don't think it's that bad!!!

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lilymolly · 29/09/2008 20:36

Oh my god
Cant believe they have to take knickers off under leotard at 3-4 year old

Its not bloody The Royal Ballet company

You know its that sort of crap that would put me off sending dd to ballet.

lilymolly · 29/09/2008 20:37

not the bloody royal ballet company

Sycamoretree · 29/09/2008 20:39

Lilymolly, they DON'T have to! Some posters have just suggested that might be a reason why the woman in question was stripping her down to the buff.

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milene · 29/09/2008 20:40

Horsemum - are you serious? A naked child in public with it's mum is no more likely to be molested than a clothed one!

lilymolly · 29/09/2008 20:45

oh right so its not compulsary?

Still cant understand why anyone would do that its not like 3 year olds worry about VPL is it.

Horsewoman is surely taking the piss

staranise · 29/09/2008 21:11

The only weird thing is doing it outside, which seems a bit harsh given the UK climate.

DD1 (aged 4) gets changed out of her ballet stuff after class, which involves her being naked as they don't wear knickers under their leotards. We rarely go straight home after class and it's not practical for her to stay in her leotard. There are no changing rooms available but it is an anteroom to the class. Do not think it's weird at all, we are surrounded by little girls doing the same thing. I guess when they're older they get changed in the loos but it seems unnecessary at this age and she would be the only one doing it.

staranise · 29/09/2008 21:14

she takes her knickers off because the leotard fits and looks better with them off and there seesm no reason to keep them on, given our lack of squeamishness about her changing in public...(always indoors however!)

PinkyDinkyDooToo · 29/09/2008 22:04

What is she going to do in December! Poor children will totally freeze

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