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To hate the sleep threads that say...

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Jennyusedtobepink · 19/09/2008 11:27

'My 5 week/5 month/4 hour old baby won't sleep'. Try 16 fecking months of it.

I do realise most of this is down to me, and probably am BU, but I just had to say it!!!!!

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cupsoftea · 19/09/2008 11:31

mine aren't big sleepers so I can be really tired out sometimes.

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Jennyusedtobepink · 19/09/2008 11:32

If someone had told me when dd was 5mo that she still wouldn't be sleeping through the night at 16mo, I'd have thrown myself under a bus.

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MorningTownRide · 19/09/2008 11:32

YANBU - met a mum yesterday whose 6 week had slept through

Neither of mine slept through 'til they were 7 months old.

It does get easier (I've been told)

StarlightMcKenzie · 19/09/2008 11:34

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Jennyusedtobepink · 19/09/2008 11:34

Grrr at all parents of babies who sleep through.

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FairLadyRantALot · 19/09/2008 11:35

YABU, but I can understand why they wind you up....

tbh, I always think that peopel are expecting so much of young Baby's....and there seems to be an enormous pressure on mums to get a Baby to sleep through as early as possible...this reflects in comments/questions such as : OH is he/she good, does he/she sleep thorugh the night for you....?
I used to anser, oh x is a very good Baby, but no sleeping thoruhg isn't yet happening

fryalot · 19/09/2008 11:35

my four and a half year old has slept through a handful of times.

Generally she wakes up at least twice, sometimes more...

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Jennyusedtobepink · 19/09/2008 11:35

Starlight - you bring up a very valid point. Agree completely. Why is sleeping such a big competition? I remember when dd was about 12 weeks old, asking another mother in complete desperation how she had managed to get her LO to sleep through

She wouldn't tell me!!! Bitch.

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PuppyMonkey · 19/09/2008 11:36

I read a (crap) book by someone called Jo Tantum that reckoned babies should all be sleeping through at ten weeks. I felt such a failure when mine was still waking up regularly at 5 months...

EffiePerine · 19/09/2008 11:36

DS didn;t sleep until about 15 mo. You have my symapthies, it's ridiculously hard .

justgotbfp · 19/09/2008 11:37

5 out of 7 ds wakes at night between 1 and 3 times and he is.....4
not days
not weeks
not months
bloody years
yanbu

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Jennyusedtobepink · 19/09/2008 11:38

And I completely accept that it's all my fault, as I can't quite manage CC or any of the rest of it.

But I do wish she'd realise that sleep is a good thing. We can't watch Upsy Blardy Daisy all the time.

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3littlefrogs · 19/09/2008 11:38

The expectation that babies will sleep causes an awful lot of stress and worry IMO.

IME, a baby that does sleep for long periods, especially at night, is the exception rather than the rule. The real problem in our so called civilised society, is that mothers rarely have the kind of support and help that would enable them to rest and sleep whenever the baby did sleep.

Instead, there is an expectation that mums will carry on doing housework, cooking, cleaning, shopping, looking after other children, and, after a very short period of maternity leave, go back to work, AND do all of the above.

No wonder we are all stressed out.

gingerninja · 19/09/2008 11:38

Mine waited until she was nearly two. So 16 months is childs play

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Jennyusedtobepink · 19/09/2008 11:39

Oh you're all being so nice. I expected to be lynched!!!!

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3littlefrogs · 19/09/2008 11:39

X posted with everyone!

wessexgirl · 19/09/2008 11:39

Squonk, snap! Dd1 has just started Reception and we got THREE unbroken night's sleep IN A ROW. Bliss.

JacobsPrincess · 19/09/2008 11:39

Jenny, it's no use Grr-ing at parents of sleepy babies - it's not our fault!
I have the opposite problem, I can't get the begger to wake up.

justgotbfp · 19/09/2008 11:40

squank I think I love you, I know NO ONE else who has a 4 year old waker

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Jennyusedtobepink · 19/09/2008 11:40

Ginger - you saw my 16 months and you raised me two years, eh?

I like it. I am smiling. Which is a good thing!

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cupsoftea · 19/09/2008 11:40

All I can say is that with my first all other mums I knew had babys that had to be woken for meals!!!!! but then came teething & then came moving to a big bed & they had no sleep

BarbieLovesKen · 19/09/2008 11:40

Jennyusedtobepink - she wouldnt tell you??!! how ridiculous!!!!!

Its stupid - making it a competition - dont understand it tbh.

Have to admit though, my dd has slept right through since 5 weeks... (sorry!!)

StarlightMcKenzie · 19/09/2008 11:41

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MrsJamin · 19/09/2008 11:41

goodness this is annoying me too. especially when the babies are 11 wks and they expect the baby to be sleeping through. there was a AIBU thread recently about this same thing though. I think we're all in a culture which is to blame for not being realistic about what babies are like and that it doesn't normally happen that for 6 weeks their sleep settles down to 7-7 and stays that way. Retailers like mamas and papas don't help IMHO - they just portray a picture of beauty, senerity and cuteness of babies that just aint realistic and sets parents up for a huge disappointment. DS is 8.5MO and shows no sign of sleeping through - hasn't done 7-7 once!

PuppyMonkey · 19/09/2008 11:41

I was obsessed with the baby sleeping through the night for ages. I would look at other people in the street and try to work out whether they had been up in the night or not and be very if I thought they had had a decent kip.

I even got insanely jealous of Sally Webster off Corrie once because she was having a party for her birthday and her kids were all big and sleeping late in the mornings, so she stayed up dead late. And I thought - why can't that be me????