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To hate the sleep threads that say...

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Jennyusedtobepink · 19/09/2008 11:27

'My 5 week/5 month/4 hour old baby won't sleep'. Try 16 fecking months of it.

I do realise most of this is down to me, and probably am BU, but I just had to say it!!!!!

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gingerninja · 19/09/2008 11:42

Yes, thing is I still don't sleep. I am so used to being up two or three times a night that I can't sleep for longer than a two hour stretch before waking. If I ever (ver very rare) sleep as long as four hours on the trot I simply can't get back to sleep as my body is convinced it's had enough. It's a cruel cruel world for a parent of a sleepless (or ex sleepless!) child

Themasterandmargaritas · 19/09/2008 11:43

YABU, are you pregnant?

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Jennyusedtobepink · 19/09/2008 11:45

TMAM - you're mean though. You know I'm pathetic. How dare you mock me in this manner!!!

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MmeLindt · 19/09/2008 11:45

My PFB DD slept through from about 14 weeks

DS did not sleep through until he was over 2yo

And he still gets up most night to go to the loo and then comes into my bed for a cuddle.

YANBU and it is NOTHING to do with your parenting

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Jennyusedtobepink · 19/09/2008 11:47

On the nights when she does sleep a little longer (and by this I mean 2am or something), I wake up thinking there is something wrong with her. Poor thing can't win!!

My friends and I don't mention the sleep thing any more. It was just too stressful a topic.

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Caz10 · 19/09/2008 11:48

JacobsPrincess she wasn't!!

I agree, I thought mine would sleep through at 6wks, then the goal was 3mths, then everyone said it would happen at 6mths....9mths now and I actually have abandoned all hope that it will ever happen.

Some sleep, some don't, don't think there's anything we can do about it tbh

orangehead · 19/09/2008 11:48

ds1 slept through at 2 weeks .
ds2 didnt sleep through till 20 months and 3 horrible nights of controlled crying .
It does catch up with us

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Jennyusedtobepink · 19/09/2008 11:49

DD was a beautiful sleeper until she was about 13 weeks old. I suspect at this point she realised mummy was a complete sucker!

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ninja · 19/09/2008 11:50

I know a few people who thought that my non-sleeping 18 month old was my fault .............. until they had non-sleeping second children!!

I didn't even mind when DD woke up and went back to sleep - it was the 2 hours of being awake that was often an issue.

I must admit my car got a lot of minor bumps for a couple of years (skips and concrete bollards) through sleep deprivation

I can hardly complain though - I can't remember the last time that I slept through the night!!

Themasterandmargaritas · 19/09/2008 11:50

You know i'm mean.

You'll soon miss it though, when dd is a teenager and you are desperate for her to get out of bed and do something, anything other than sleeping. Actually it's getting more difficult to wake up dd to get her to go to school and she is only 7.

Also on the positive side, it means you are used to going without so much sleep so in theory it means you could go out and party til all hours and not feel like crap in the morning.

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Jennyusedtobepink · 19/09/2008 11:52

And at the risk of contradicting myself, when I said she was a beautiful sleeper up to 13 weeks old, she used to go from about 11pm to 5am. I thought this was shit at the time, because she wasn't going 12 hours. Resulting in me asking that other mother for help.

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Jennyusedtobepink · 19/09/2008 11:53

Now a six hour stretch would be heaven.

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Divvy · 19/09/2008 12:02

Someones idea of sleeping through, may not be the same as someones else though.

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Jennyusedtobepink · 19/09/2008 12:03

Oh I see. So maybe dd going to sleep at 7pm last night and waking up at 8.30pm is actually sleeping through.

Sorry, just joking.

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SueDonym · 19/09/2008 12:07

I find that these threads are sometimes the only thing that keeps me going. I have no RL support, really, so yes YABU.

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Jennyusedtobepink · 19/09/2008 12:10

Oh now I feel bad SueDonym. I'm just feeling a bit bitter and twisted today. And tired.

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LilRedWG · 19/09/2008 12:11

Only if I can hate people who say, "Oh, she's such a good sleeper. I really hope that she is a vile toddler/teenager.

LilRedWG · 19/09/2008 12:11

Talking about my DD of course, not their own.

lulumama · 19/09/2008 12:13

things no better , jen?

am sorry .

can't think of anything else to sugges

OrmIrian · 19/09/2008 12:14

I hear you jenny, I hear you

I had three all of whom had an inborn sleep intolerance - no honestly, I'm sure it is a medical term. I'ts OK now that my youngest is 5 but I think it's damaged me for life!

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Jennyusedtobepink · 19/09/2008 12:14

Lulu - no it's still crap. But am resigned to it now. Although that doesn't stop me complaining, of course.

LilRedWG - that's a bit mean. I don't wish less than perfect crap sleepers on anyone, I just wish my dd did sleep!

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Jennyusedtobepink · 19/09/2008 12:16

LOL at baggy eyes. I went to stay with another MNer last weekend. It was truly awful. On the first night, dd went to sleep at 1.10am, on the second night, 1.40am. I must stress that this particular MNer was wonderful, but it was just awful.

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Idobelieveinfairies · 19/09/2008 12:16

DD1 slept through at 6 weeks
DS1 slept through at 8 weeks

the 4 others were a lot later...

youngest twins are nearly 4 and they still wake up in the night and are up and down.....they don't go to sleep until 10 at night either.....and then awake at 6.30

all children are differnt from my experience.

It is horrid when they are young though and having to feed, at least i can ignore mine when they wake up

MmeLindt · 19/09/2008 12:18

With DD (good sleeper) idiots well meaning friends would say, "oh, that will not last, she won't always sleep that well"

With DS (shite sleeper) the same fuckwits friends would tell us, "you need to be more strict, he is taking the piss"

Fine, you do the nightshift and let him cry till he pukes, then you have a nonsleeping baby AND a bed to change.