to let my mum take my 3 month old baby out so i can get on top of the housework but instead just lie on the couch and eat chocs?

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You are a model mother! Nobody with a 3-month-old should be doing any housework at all.

No, YANBU. Surely your mum would understand the importance of sofa and chocs? You are obviously in need of refuelling and rest to be able to get on top of housework later...

...like in 9 months or a year perhaps?

yanbu..am lieing on sofa with my 3 month year old contemplating going to cupboard for chocolate

i keep thinking i should get up and spray polish arround the room so it seems like i have done something.
I know ill regret doing nothing later, but oh to do nothing, what luxury........

Perfect practical parenting! Cash in the Attic and a box of Maltesers, I remember it fondly YANBU

YANBU, not at all. Go for it!

you are not ignoring the housework your a positively contributing to your child's immune system!

enjoy

noonki, thats a good way of putting it!

thats what ill say when mum asks me if ive caught up ill say, 'well i've certainly contributed to building up my dd's immune system!'

You are doing entirely the right thing. It is far more important that your baby has a relaxed, rested mum than a show home.

YANBU. You have to look after yourself.

YANBU - but then i'm doing exactly the same!

YANBU but you could do one better (I don't know about you but I've never been able to cook, clean or anything else as well as my mother) and ask her what she thinks of your cleaning job. Maybe she will offer to help you clean since you are still healing. It took you 9 months to get there..it should take at least that long to recover.

YANBU. I wish I had spent more time lying on my arse and less time stressing about my house when my DS was that age!

YANBU. Get a trashy book out, lovely cup of tea (if bf), glass of wine if not.