to not want to do a 4 hour round trip to collect canadian cousin's daugher from airport? YOU DECIDE

[troubledfriend]

I will totally act on basis of mumsnet jury.

I hava a close extended family.
My canadian cousin ( age 46) has a 22 year old daughter studying at a scottish university . About to go into 4th year and arriving in Scotland next friday to continue studies.We are all great frineds, very close and chummy.I LOVE the daughter; I am her second mum.

Cousin emailed me to request I or another family member collect her from arriving airport and deliver her to her lodgings.

This is 3-4 hour round trip for any of the family who might avail themselves.

it is max 2 hours by ( good ) public transport for the arriving student.

It is my one day off from official work in the week (still have 2 primary kids to take care of). I COULD do it , with help from friends who could collect kids from schooletc.

BUT aibu in thinking it is not a reasonable request aand she should get the train?

TBH I think you're being totally unreasonable. You describe yourself as her second mum, clearly you're not if you're prepared to let her get off a transatlantic flight then haul herself and her luggage (22yo female so likely to be lots!) on a 2 hour train journey, presumably with a taxi or bus ride at the other end to her lodgings. How would you feel if that was your daughter arriving in a different country with no one to meet her and make sure she's safe? Sorry to be harsh but I think you're bang out of order, its one day for goodness sake

OO I see this one has been resolved...must apologise for my premenstrual diatribe also ...still think you should ahve done it

after a flight from canada I think she would really appreciate a lift rather than 1 1/2 - 2 hours on public transport. after the hassle of an airport, sitting on a flight for however many hours with strangers and little room, waiting for baggage and passport control etc, a time difference of a few hours, THEN lugging her luggage about on public transport for 1 1/2 hours, it will be EXHAUSTING.
having just come back from holiday (with a toddler, admittedly, so more hassle from the outset) I was SO grateful to be picked up and not to have to drive myself 40 mins to get home. And that was after a 1 3/4 hr flight.
I say do it. she will really appreciate it. and remember Karma!

oh, belatedly realise it has been resolved.
that'll teach me to read a WHOLE thread, not just the beginning

Glad your cousins were OK about it. I think you weren't being unreasonable in the first place - the girl's 22, she's been travelling between the two countries for three or four years now. A lift would have been nice, but hardly essential.