To not want XP to take DD to Australia?

[Aimsmum]

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Aimsmum, did he answer your questions about what would actually be happening on the holiday?

I feel inclined to think it is a bad idea for many of the reasons listed above. I just wanted to add that I don't understand why people keep saying "hey he's her father he's an adult etc, how dare you stop him." Not all fathers are great, some are neglectful and can't look after their own children properly. Trust the OP's own experience of this particular bloke.

I wouldnt. Could you go aswell? A few weeks is a long if he cant even have her for 2 nights on his own, he wont be able to call his parents to go to Australia.

YANBU - given it didn't go well last time. I would want plenty of info about where they were staying, info about the friend, what his plans were whilst out there - just to show some thought had gone into her holiday, rather than it being a spur of the moment thing, as the need for the loan might indicate; it doesn't sound as if it's a long cherished dream he's been saving for.

DCs go on holiday with the g-ps. I always feel it's a wrench letting them go but the deciding factor is always that the dcs will have a fab time and get undivided attention.

It's beginning to sound like he wanted the trip, then asked to take DD with so you couldn't tick him off about spending the money....

wow I would say that you are not being unreasonable at all
He's going to stay with an old school mate -eh?
What if there is only one spare room - if he has a two bed apartment / house - is your Dd going to share a bed with her dad? what is the iteneary - Oz is HUGE!
And he's gone into debt? eh? in an economic downturn? To fly across the world to see someone who he hasn't seen in 7 years.. will he have enough to cover an emergency?

Blimey - it's a very long flight back if your XP decides he can't cope again!!!
YANBU.

Besides what's all this nonsense about this trip being once in a lifetime folks? The OP's DD may well be able to pop around the world every month when she's older. Why are you limiting her future, just because her dad's gone into debt to go when she's just 8.

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