To think baby led weaning is a scam?

[pardon]

Isn't it normal to give dc's a bit of finger food?

"they claim she isn't cos she doesn't feed herself"

What - someone at a toddler group you attended actually said your child didn't 'self wean' because she didn't feed herself, knowing that your dd isn't able to feed herself?

Did you respond? I would have thought that if you'd pointed out to them that she couldn't feed herself they would have instantly wanted to disappear into a hole in the ground.

ouch. poor wee scrap, that doesn't sound nice. thank god you're her mum, looking out for her. i can well imagine that dd is entitled not to like people piddling about with her if she's had a lot of intervention. i'm already fretting that because i have to syringe disgusting vitamins into dd's mouth twice a day (4lbs in weight and VERY capable of telling me she doesn't enjoy it ) she'll develop an oral aversion. that's such a minor example but it is gutting, isn't it, when medical circumstances force you to act outside your parental instinct? i'm finding it difficult, at least.

belgo, she made her birthweight back yesterday which is GREAT but has spent most of the day puking thanks to the blasted vits. fingers crossed she keeps up the weight gain.

Learn this line "When you have a child who is [fill in excruciatingly detailed description here] then you can tell me what I'm doing wrong"

It sounds like you're a brilliant parent, don't listen to anyone else and don't feel a failure because you don't match up to the parent of a healthy child. You have to adapt life to fit your circumstances. (I might not have a child like yours, but I've had to do it and so has my brother, to different extents).

that woman sounds like a proper arsehole, tbh. it must be exhausting.

same thing happened with me about the bottles, btw. i'm sure i heard it louder than they meant me to, iykwim, i think they were just trying to show off to each other and didn't assume i could hear. but at the time it was like they were really in my face about it. grim. i'm mix-feeding dd2 and she's not even a fortnight old... already cringing at the thought of pulling out a bottle in public to feed such a teeny baby...

I have a friend with an SN baby and she once phoned me to recount how, at a family gathering, she put her baby down on a bed.

"you shouldn't leave her there, she might fall off the bed"

"she can't roll or sit, she will be fine"

"no, it is far too dangerous to leave a baby of that age down on a bed, you never know when she will crawl"

"She has global developmental delay and can't move"

"still, you never know..."

She now also gets told off for spoon feeding her baby purees at 2 years old even though her DD has never chewed anything! Some people are just totally insensitive and unable to accept that a child's mother understands the situation better than they do.

The trouble is nobody else leads your life do they?
When I had the twins everyone offered advie but over 99% of it was impractical.

Sorry riven, I have pictures of Little Britain going through my head now! More from other peoples expectations than anything.

The farking name really, really needs to be changed. Even now it p*sses me off no end, the implication being that any other way isn't led by your baby and therefore is somehow forcing them.