To think baby led weaning is a scam?

[pardon]

Isn't it normal to give dc's a bit of finger food?

I can promise you that I haven't been "taken in" by anything. I have just a lot of support and a way of doing things that really suited me and DD. It's not a cult

interesting that you see it that way, kew. afaic i see infinitely more sneering directed at blw on here than the other way around.

Aitch, I think it depends on which side you're starting on. It the same with anything - SAHM/WOHM breast/bottle milk choc/plain... one side thinks the other side is getting sneery. Usually it's neither side or both that are sneery though

well precisely, soupy. that's why i found it interesting, iykwim?

Example of something that comes across as being sneery towards purees:

"My DD was sat there tucking into her roast dinner and there was an older baby was being spoonfed pureed carrot".

Now, to the BLW side, this appears to be a mother proud of what her baby was eating, to the puree side, this comes across as smug and sneery.

Not that there should be side but there always will be.

Agree with Soupy.
Have read a number of threads recently, that seemed to be very middle of the road. People saying they weren't 'comfortable' with something. And people jumping up and saying " oh you are so judgemental". Whereas I thought it was all reasonable, civilised debate.
Depends on your starting point.

I think the problem (such as it is) is made worse by the lack of voice tone and body language on an internet forum. Face to face, I think most things would come across fine.

Perhaps I don't see the sneering at BLW becasue I don;t generally read the weaning threads but on general thread noses are turned up more commonly at pureeing IMO. ANd I really don't have a side! It really was of no practical interest to me at all.

I suppose I just don't think either option is that bad (and would therefore disapprove of sneering at BLW as well).

It's a huge scam!

Did you not know that Aitch lives in a 25 bedroomed mansion and has her own carribean island coz she earnt shed lods of money scamming people into doing BLW??

I do BLW coz I'm lazy too... and my blender didn't puree too well!

AND all that money, and her carribean island, made from her BLW scam, really helped tremendously, when she had to have an undesired CS the other day.
I tell you, money buys you everything. Not.
Praise the lord, for her coming up with the BLW scam in the first place.

Laughing at thought of it being a scam.

In my experience some BLW-ers can be a bit pedantic, though, can't they? My daughter was weaned on finger foods, mostly. She only occasionally had mashed foods, but because I occasionally used a spoon to feed her (she's very picky and had 'yoghurt only' days) I was led to understand that I could therefore not claim to be a fully badged up baby led weaner, and that I would irritate other baby led weaners by claiming to be a member of their weaning club given that this was the case...

Not that I care. Who does really? As long as you don't give them stuff they're not supposed to have (salt, extra hot Tabasco, etc), what does it matter what they eat, and in what form?

MoChan, "what does it matter " ?
No, no, my love you are missing the point completely, my dear
These things are the crux of life/love and the universe, don't ya know.

Its just added to the other do you/ don't you lists of things that we are here to argue about:
Puree/BLW
BF/bottles
SAHM/ working

All the same thing

lol MoChan, the people I've had say the same thing because I didn't spoon feed her! You have to do what works for your family and for me I couldn't see the point in giving something that had to be spoon fed. Now she's two I seem to be spoon feeding her more than ever! I put it down to being too grown up to use her hands but not being able to get it in quick enough or accurate enough if she uses cutlery - it's not with everything of course.

The only reason I tend to be (somewhat) anti-blw is because of how evangelical some MNers are about BLW.
Like Kewcumber said, it's not that revolutionary or proven better/best for all or anything that incredibly special and unique, honestly.
Speaking as somebody who seems to be doing blw with my youngest, mostly out of my own sheer laziness.

And HOW does a militant purist evangelical BLWer give their 6month old baby Calpol? I've been meaning for ages to ask that out of pure mischief-making!

identify me a single 'militant purist evangelical BLWer' on MN and i'll ask her. i gave it to dd on a spoon.

I think BLW can be a real lightbulb moment for some parents though, especially first timers, because they just haven't been exposed to anything else. I remember 'discovering' it here on Mumsnet before DD even arrived and being so excited to try it out (though had to wait for 7 months)

And that's where the evangelical comes from, they're so delighted to have found this 'new' idea they want to share. And many people on Aitch's forum report how they feel quite isolated because they know no-one else doing it, and families can be quite negative - so this means that it must be different somehow from the 'norm' that most people experience.

We were giving Tink medicine from birth do she was always open to medicine - still is, we have to hide it! We gave her a filled syringe and she sucked on it. I'm not militant either!

I agree with the light bulb moment. At the BF group I was going to the HV and MW who ran it were advising everyone to do it and loaning out the DVD (which I never got to see). Being one to know things for myself I started researching, found the Dutch site and Aitch's blog. The more I read the more I understood and it was a real "Yeah, this really makes sense" moment. It also fitted in with my lazy yet supported method of parenting.

actually, that's true for me about the lightbulb moment. a friend told me she'd read about blw in a baby mag and i just thought 'of course, that's what my mum did with my youngest sister when we were all at the dinner table' and i couldn't see past it. (actually she did have some mush cos the weaning age was younger but the point was i clearly remembered the trad spag bol pics of dsis enjoying family food at six months).

of course, if dd hadn't liked it i'd have done something else.

well of COURSE it is, riven. i can't believe that you'd doubt yourself for a second over something like that, you're clearly such a good and instinctive parent, determined to help your dd to enjoy life to the utmost.

but really, who are these militants? i never see them, and i've seen thousands of posts on the subject.

ah, toddler groups, you eejit . dd's nt and i nevertheless avoid them like the plague. some women are nice there, they must be i guess, but there's always one person who rules the roost and i inevitably get into a 'heated discussion' with them...

Aitch - I would love to have you in our mother and baby group! You would liven things up I think

Hope you and dd2 are doing well btw.

I spoon feed ds yoghurt and other things, messy things. Coz there is only so much mess I will tolerate.

I'm just doing what works best for me and ds.

Surely miliant BLWers would be running around ranting at people who spoon feed telling us we're force feeding our babies and that purees are tantamount to child abuse?

I certainly haven't seen ay of that!