I am not a troll just genuinely shocked and upset by posts that are downright bullying and abusive in nature.
I am well prepared for the fact that I am going to get slated for this but I really feel this should be a website for support, advice and a bit of a laugh.
Nothing wrong with a debate and difference of opinion in a respectful manner but when people start getting accused of child abuse unfairly I can't help feeling angry.
My father mentally abused me as a child and young person. All in the name of 'constructive criticism' and 'telling it how it is' and to 'toughen me up'. I ended up in counselling.
My point is twofold. For those of you that feel it is okay to insult someone because they should be able to take it on a website such as this, think about what you may be doing to that person and how crap they might feel. Make you feel warm inside does it?
Secondly with reference to the child abuse accusations the irony is that these kind of posts are abusive and bullying. Do you speak to your children in such a way justified by 'well you should be tough enough to take it'. Hope not or you are heading for a very dysfunctional relationship with them.
No wonder so many women struggle with mothering when they are faced with this on a so called Mum's website.
Whilst I don't think putting a 14mo to bed without tea was necessarily the best way to stop fussy eating but I don't think this mother is abusive. It sounds like she was having a shit day and at the end of her tether. We have all been there. I'm sure if the LO had woken up hungry, she wouldn't have let her starve ffs.
I am not the bananagate OP and I am not taking it personally. God I started a thread about being fat at size 16 and took it on the chin as it was intended to be a bit of a laugh. But child abuse is no laugh.
Rant over. my name will be forever mud in murky mumsnet waters. But wtf and I must thank the nice mumsnetters who help, advise and support. In these instances this website is invaluable and I wish I had known about it when my DS was first born!