to not want to give my dd "in the night garden" toys?

[babymt]

My dd2 was 2 on friday and for her birthday has been given by 2 seperate people an In the Night Garden book and a dolly (Upsy Daisy). AIBU to not let her have them?

My reasons are that I A. Passionately hate the program as I just think its completely idiotic and B. Think that her having them toys makes it look like I endorce the show.

I know lots of you will let your children watch ITNG and they love it. But I don't like it and will under no circumstances let mine watch it. I'm not criticising those who let their kids watch it, its just something that bugs me.

Also AIBU to be annoyed that people seem to give my kids inappropriate toys i.e. books for 5+ year olds (including Enid Blytons for my 2 year old!) or baby books. Or toys will loads of little bits when my dd's a "put everything in her mouth"er.

I feel a bit bad for my dd2 coz she didn't get hardly anything she liked for her birthday. Which is also embarassing for me. You know when they do that rip the present open then throw it on the floor then display no interest when someone tries to show them it.

Ok I IABU a bit I think.

My dd (21mths) doesn't watch any television - we don't have one. I was horrified, and then very amused at myself, that my PFB had "Tigger" and "Piglet" among her first, say, 50-odd words. I think I am laughing at myself now.

The benefit at this age though is that they have no idea what it all is. The dolls from ITNG look quite nice, have seen them in the shops, it doesn't mean anything to me - or my DD - or yours. Ditto other hated products. Once they get older, probably only next year, it might be a bit different, because they can hear about them from their peers. I suspect you - and I - will have to rethink things a little then!

I'm with op I hate itng as does dh along with the teletubbies (shudders) and yes unthought out presents are annoying but as I could think of didly squat to get a 1 year old girl yesterday I am not one to talk!!!

Enid Blyton books are classics and your dd will enjoy them at some point. I think that is a lovely gift to receive. How rude of you.

ITNG is popular at the moment and all over the shops so the people who bought these gifts were probably pleased they had got the 'latest' thing. Unless you advised in advance that they shouldnt buy them then YABU.

Your DC will love them I'm sure, and then grow out of them.

I think YABU about the Blyton books. They are classics and if you develop a love of reading in your children they will be read again and again I'm sure.

my 2 ,7 and 8 year olds love being read enid blyton.on your dc next birthday why dont you send out lists of whats exceptable and whats unexeptable as gifts.

There was an articlae about ITNG a few months ago.

It was being nominated for Baftas as it was outstanding in it's field. Children's tv is shite ATM, no one is making anything for them and this stood alone as a creative, outstanding and educational programme.

My dd loves it so much she cries when it ends, and I think it's fantastic. So soothing and calming.

I think your lo is being deprived if you don't let them watch it. Deprived of an imaginative, creative experience. I think the scale is meant to be all wrong btw

YABU.

Stop being so controlling.

Personally I LOVE ITNG because visually it's beautiful and very original.

But, I hate Barney with a passion ("I'm brushing my teeth at the back, gonna get rid of all the plaque!" boak......) but I wouldn't stop my children playing with Barney toys if someone else generously brought one for them as a present. It's just such a tight-arsed, mimsy thing to do.

Its not all about you...your LO may love it, perhaps try letting her decide on this one.

I love the fact that you are worried about endorcing the show, it's not written by Gary Fucking Glitter!

Hmmm..........Barney...where is that vomit emoticon when you need it.

LOL twelvelegs.priceless

yabu - let her have the toys. would you like it if she took all your chocolate off you because she didnt like it?

its a bit harsh

Very OTT and yes YABU.

A gift is a gift whether YOU like it or not.

YABVU your dd2 needs to learn to decide what she likes. They are not your things! I would be livid if I found out that presents given to my neice were confiscated.

FWIW I can't stand most childrens programmes but my dd1 is still allowed toys pertaining to them. She is 2.5y

Gosh you are being madly unreasonable! Why, why, why do you 'hate' ITNG? It's lovely, gentle, kind and quirky and NOT aimed at you! It's not exactly Predator II
Here is a feature about the thinking behind it.
www.guardian.co.uk/theobserver/2007/nov/25/features.magazine47

Gosh you are being madly unreasonable! Why, why, why do you 'hate' ITNG? It's lovely, gentle, kind and quirky and NOT aimed at you! It's not exactly Predator II
Here is a feature about the thinking behind it.
www.guardian.co.uk/theobserver/2007/nov/25/features.magazine47

BTW, ITNG does have a story in each episode and usually a moral underline such as sharing, going to bed, brushing teeth etc. Obviously because you don't watch it you don't see it. If you took the time to watch from a childs perspective it illustrates lots of things at the exact same level as a 2yo needs. It involves counting, encourages dancing and singing, etc.
I feel sorry for your thoroughly controlled dd.

nice article. thanks, mabanana

Err - you are not meant to enjoy it - it's aimed at toddlers. I find it annoying in the extreme, but DD (2) loves it. I enjoy Poirot (I know, I know) but I don't expect DD to sit through it.

As for Enid Blyton books - DD loves being read them.

So, yes, YABU - give the poor child her presents back!

late to this but just give her the freakin tings, she won't 'know' they are form the programme you so detest if she's never seen it anyway.

or if not, i have 6 yr old who'd quite like the Upsy Daisy.

Hmmm... where to start... Your two-year-old got "hardly any presents she liked for her birthday"... are you sure? I find that impossible. The kids like the WRAPPING PAPER at that age, never mind what's in the box. I think it's more like your two-year-old got hardly any presents that YOU liked for her birthday.

Did you throw a birthday party just to get fabby gifts?

I think everyone understands that a two-year-old won't do a tap dance when she receives a book or a puzzle. No one expects it, and it shouldn't embarrass you. People give those kind of gifts because they know the PARENTS (i.e. the mature ones) will pull them out at a later time and use them IN AN EDUCATIONAL WAY to stimulate their child's growth and development.

If you got some tatty gifts or gifts that are for a younger child, re-gift or give to charity, and try to realize that not everyone is in a position to give fabby birthday gifts. If you got some gifts that aren't yet age appropriate, either put away for later, or re-gift them.

As for ITNG, I am a fan. It's up to you whether you give the gifts to your daughter or not. But for heaven's sake, don't get irritated about it, because that's really, really silly.

YANBU. How terrible that they should have given you ITNG stuff for your little one! I mean the programme is just corrupt for kids. Tell them to change the toys immediately for the movie DVD of Child's Play. That's much more appropriate!