I have not done the housework for weeks

[bloomingfedup]

I just don't seem to be able to find the time or energy Roll on term time.

having only just joined mumsnet,not quite used to abbreviations yet, but it makes me realise I'm not the only one with alot of the problems and difficulties I face as a mum.

this thread about cleaning is making me feel alot better ideally I'd like to clean thoroughly every week, clear all the washing and ironing and have the perfect family home cooked meals every night.

In reality I've barely the energy to hoover twice a week, dust once a fortnight etc. I have learnt a number of cheat tricks if someone's coming round, although sometimes feel too tired to even do that.

Currently just had coil fitted 11 weeks (and feel like I'm back to PND) which only got ontop of begin of year.

Thanks guys for making me feel you don't have to be perfect

Welcome to mumsnet mrspurple! Is it the mirena? If so I think there have been some threads about it's side effects for some people.

People remember. Human beings did not ironed their loin clothes and animal skins. Ironing was invented to get bugs out of the seams of expensive clothes as washing wouldn't do the trick. Ironing is very unnecessary. I have to have my shirts ironed for work. Don't do DS's clothes at all will wait until his school shirts need Ironing. Was it the idea kept on by a servent in the manor House that didn't want to clean the loo's? Ha Ha

Starbear, really??? That's why they started ironing things? ha, well I feel even LESS guilty about only picking the iron up about 3 times a year now. (I do hang all my damp washing up to dry on an airer so that the worst creasing falls out, and most of my clothes are the types of fabric that don't really crease anyway and DH has to wear polo shirts to work)

Sod the cleaning! It won't say on your grave stone "she had really sparkling floors and windows" You are not a bad person if you have dust on your skirting boards!

my wife is breatfeeding our handsome son.. i have control of the pc!here is a tip. less time chatting more time dusting!!!lol why dust when jeremy kyle is on.lad off boob now.good bye

Only a week?

What's the problem??

I can't do any, it is horrible

I started off loving doing the housework when we moved. It is such a nice place to keep clean.

Then I got ill, then even iller, and finally I'm starting to feel a bit better (it's been about 6 weeks) and the builders are here laying a floor in the dining rm between the living room and kitchen. Nobody can go through it and everything is heaped in the living room (table, chairs, cupboards etc) and we have to go outside in the dark/rain to get to kitchen. Children have nowhere to play, can't even see floor, and the tiles are not setting as they used the wrong stuff. Plus they only work at weekends. And keep charging me more and more for cement.
I have an urge to just leave but have nowhere to go...

the agents came round to inspect on Friday and he was so snotty about it, calling it a work in prgoress in a v sarcastic voice. I have been working really, really hard on it. Tosser.

Sorry that turned into a rant

oh and once this is done we are having the heating replaced. (hoping anyway if grant is approved)
so once more loads of upheaval.

I should have moved somewhere that didn't need work.

sit on mumsnet and pretend you are sitting in a tidy house.
According to Paul McKenna iirc- imagining yourself somewhere lovely has the same calming effect on your mind as really being somewhere lovely!

wow - this is the only AIBU thread I have ever read which doesn't have ANY YABU comments - well done OP - that deserves a month off from dusting in its own right

Just found this poem that my friend gave me when its was all getting too much. You might have read it before but here goes.

I TOOK HIS HAND
My dishes went unwashed today,
I didn't make the bed.
I took his hand and followed.
Where eager footsteps led.

Oh yes, we went adventuring
My little son and I.
Exploring all the great outdoors
Beneath the summer sky

We waded throught the crystal stream
We wandered through a wood
My Kitchen wasn't swept today
But life was bright and good.

We watched a robin feed her young
We climbed a sunlit hill,
Saw cloud sheep scamper throught the sky
We plucked a daffodil.

That my house was neglected
That I didn't brush the stairs.
In Twenty years no-one on earth
will know or even care.

BUT that I've helped my little son To noble manhood grow In twenty years and whole wide world May look, and see, and know.

Unknown author..

It always brings a tear to my eye...

Starbear - lovley poem - I will print it off and stick it where I can look at it. So true!

I've kept it my handbag for 4 years I think I'm going to frame it and put it in the kitchen so others can see where I'm at (hippy lingo)

. I'll be framing that one too!!

oo starbear, that made me tear up too! Must print it out and put it somewhere really obvious. Thank you!

lovely poem.

That's had me in floods, it's the small things. Having an emotional time at the moment, have read the thread on the coil, so off to drs tomorrow. House work isn't important, the dust only returns, unlike the days with your kids which you can't get back!

nope. Couldn't leave the dishes

sorry, boy...