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please can we cut pregnant posters a bit of slack

197 replies

Niceychops · 01/09/2008 15:20

Even if you know you're right and they're wrong. Even though it isn't an illness. Even though they're in the wrong thread and that entitles you to say whatever the hell you like.

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CatIsSleepy · 02/09/2008 14:07
VictorianSqualor · 02/09/2008 14:08

Namecalling is pretty rare in all seriousness, it's normally more jokey.

I have probably called three posters a name in my whole MN time, yet have had threads started slagging me off pretty often. Two in a week actually.

TheHedgeWitch · 02/09/2008 14:12

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expatinscotland · 02/09/2008 14:12

I agree, VS. Well-stated.

Haven't read the thread in question, but my mind is still unchanged - and yes, I'm pregnant, depressed and have a child with SN (and apparently, a small head according to the paed today)- why cut someone slack just because they're pregnant? Seriously?

Cry me a friggin' river!

VictorianSqualor · 02/09/2008 14:14

Actually that was something else I meant to put in there expat, people are coping with all manner of SN, daily. Again, they ask for no slack.

cornsilk · 02/09/2008 14:14

expat was the paed concerned - are you ok?

expatinscotland · 02/09/2008 14:16

It's like anything else in life, VS, for hte most part, you have to get on with it.

There's no other choice short of planning a quick exit from this life for hte next, which will benefit not much of anyone.

I do understand where some folks are coming from, more than they'll ever know, but you know how I am, I don't have much patience for drama queens - that's been in my nature long before I had a child with SN, though. It's why I like MN, FWIW, as opposed to other sites.

This site doesn't suffer fools gladly for hte most part.

expatinscotland · 02/09/2008 14:18

No, paed's not concerned. She has dyspraxia/developmental coordination disorder. She's had that since she was born. Her dad, her dad's brother and her paternal grandfather have it, too.

It's not THAT small and she is growing.

We'll just keep an eye on it.

She's been under paed care since she was 8 months old.

That's how it goes sometimes.

Plenty of us on the SN board!

cornsilk · 02/09/2008 14:20

Right - glad to hear all's well.

battleaxeready · 02/09/2008 14:34

oh, stop moaning.

2shoes · 02/09/2008 14:39

in answer to the op.
I only cut people slack if I am fully aware they are going through a shit time.
but being 12 weeks pregnant is not a shit time, so I wouldn't automaticly cut slack.

battleaxeready · 02/09/2008 14:44

Why give anyone any slack ever? Life's a bitch and then you die.

VictorianSqualor · 02/09/2008 15:32

Likewise 2shoes.
If I know someone has been through major shite lately I will cut some slack, or even if they said 'I really should have mentioned in the OP that X' but that's different to someone just being pregnant.

battleaxeready · 02/09/2008 15:37

Ohh, your like God or something. How nice of you to decide someone has had a hard enough time to deserve your slack giving.

Just don't give slack at all - far less judgemental.

VictorianSqualor · 02/09/2008 15:40

It's you're not your.

If we don't know someone has had a shite time how are we supposed to 'give slack', I just don't think personally being pregnant is any big deal, especially on this site.

Mind you, those I would 'give slack' to are the sort of people that wouldn't want it mostly.

battleaxeready · 02/09/2008 15:42

How condesending

Sunflower100 · 02/09/2008 15:42

So when do we on MN 'give someone some slack'? Does it need to be death, divorce......Didn't know giving slack had such strict rules. Thank the Lord real life isn't like this?

VictorianSqualor · 02/09/2008 15:43

Sunflower, when you personally feel they deserve some, surely?

battleaxeready · 02/09/2008 15:44

Judge and jury

VinegarTits · 02/09/2008 15:45

So unless you have been through major shite you wont get any sympathy on here, is that what your saying? what if you just having a shit day, is that just tough shit then? seems a bit harsh

Sunflower100 · 02/09/2008 15:50

Laughable! Really!

VictorianSqualor · 02/09/2008 15:50

What who is saying? Me?

If you've had a shit day and post saying 'I've had a really shit day' then of course I'll take it into consideration, who wouldn't?

What I was saying was that being pregnant doesn't automatically give you carte blanche to say what you want and expect everyone to excuse it, especially not on a site where people are going through serious shit.

VinegarTits · 02/09/2008 15:51

Personally, if i was having a shit time i wouldnt come on here and ask (aibu) if it was ok to have some 'time out'

However, if someone else asked me that question then my reaction would be, 'sure, pull up a chair, why do you feel you need to stay in bed all day?'
I wouldnt go in all guns blazing saying 'no you lazy trout, we all have to get on with it'

But hye, thats just me

battleaxeready · 02/09/2008 15:54

Victorian

You are the judge and jury. YOU decide when someone deserves slack. How very patronising of you.

expatinscotland · 02/09/2008 15:55

Namechanging to post things instead of having hte balls to do it under your real name. Classy!