To be more peed off by the quality of DH's porn rather than the fact that I've caught him looking at it?

[NotWhoIUsuallyAm]

I mean, FGS, YouPorn?

Isn't that the same as "Readers Wives"???

I haven't actually had a look at it. But surely that can't be good?

Now, ackcherley, what really pisses me off is the fact that he's lied about what he likes and doesn't like. I wouldn't be averse to a few suggestions. And a bit of adventurousness. IYSWIM.

But Readers Wives???? This does not make me feel good. Quite grim in fact.

AIBU???

Well, at least he likes real women and not airbrushed, designer (bald) fannied 18 yr olds. Good for him, really.

Real women? I would rather he wasn't wanking over real women.

Fantasy ones. Fine.

Ones remotely like me. Not fine.

my dh has just read this over my shoulder and says 'redtube is better than youporn'!!
SLAP! No dinner for him tonight.

Personally I would agree with Hecate - at least these women have normal fannies and norks and they obviously turn him on. If I caught dh with this type of porn I think I'd be strangely reassured. The bints in the glossy porn mags are just inhuman, aurbrushed and have fannies like little girls, all tucked up and hairless

(did anyone see the Perfect Vagina programme on Ch4 last night? she covered the above point quite a lot)

Oh missed it Moomin, what did she say about perfect fannies then?

YANBU. I was wounded when (many moons ago) I found an XBF's stash of porn mags and the women were (initially) wearing very cheap looking lingerie that DIDN'T EVEN MATCH. It was the sheer tastelessness of it all that really upset me.

It was really horrible; reporting on the vast increase of cosmetic surgery done on fannies in this country - having flaps trimmed to make them 'neat' etc. General consensus seemed to be that porno films, porno mags and the fashion for baldy ladygardens have put more pressure on what a fanny should supposedly look like. When bushy fanjos were more the norm I guess any perceived imperfections were mostly hidden. Best thing about it was the wall an artist was making, made up of plaster bricks which were casts of loads of women's fanjos: there were 100s of them and it really showed the variations and how none looked the same (just like any other part of anyone's body).

ere we go...ere we go...ere we goooooo

makes note of sites

Yeah what IS that fashion about baldy fanjos then? My 'husband' just had a shagging affair and when I asked him about her, he happened to mention "she had a shaved fanjo with a tattoo" (not sure how we got to that conversation) but anyhow, the point is he liked it because it was like the porn girls......Is it really f**king weird? I think it's weird because it a bit girl like....jesus are all men perverts?

He didn't call it fanjo of course...

And he admitted that he thought looking at porn made our sex life awful, and he thought it improved afetr he stopped looking at porn, due to the fact that he stopped seeing sex like f**king rather than related to love....I thought that was very interesting....(then I thumped him )

I saw that programme last night. I thought it was interesting and well-balanced. It seems obvious when you think about it: Mens' bits vary a lot so women's must too. Shame that we are all conditioned to think we are abnormal or ugly if we haven't got the archetypal shape genitals and that archetype is based, for women, on a very tidy, non-frilly, pre-adolescent's fanjo. As if we haven't all got enough pressure on us. Not the topic of this thread but...

I'm not sure why you are more offended by readers' wives style porn than another version with professional, pneumatic-silicone, matching underwear-y porn or whatever, unusual fetishes....? Are you disappointed because you are thinking that his choice of porn is a reflection on you? What sort of porn would meet your expectations?

I think YABU. I think sites like YouPorn, RedTube, XTube etc are much 'healthier' than traditional 'studio' porn. Lots of the videos are user-generated, and therefore real, and the participants are genuinely enjoying it! I'd rather my DP watched this stuff than ridiculous and completely unsexy fake f*cking by a load of cosmetically-enhanced actresses...

I am with you gagamama (ahem!)
amateur stuff sone by people who are enjoying it, because they are cheeky / kinky exhibitionists, I have no problem with that.

I married a porn addict, who was too knackered for any sex with me, cos he was 'enjoying himself' 3 or 4 times a day... it's a wonder it didn't drop off. He could have ended up with square eyes and no knob heh heh!

However he is reformed now checks internet history just to be sure nah he's fine now. I think he just grew out of it. Rapidly, before I filed for divorce...

Oops killed that one stone dead...

You porn is full of amateur videos - but also a lot of professional stuff too with links. I mean it's got to be - not everyone can be foolish enough to want to post their own 'home movie' on the www.

So I am told