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AIBU?

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Original poster

to really dislike being called Madam?

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MehgaLegs · 05/08/2008 12:32

Especially when it's in a really tedious, bored voice by someone who is just going through the motions of pretending to be polite and helpful.

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Twinkie1 · 05/08/2008 12:32

DS calls me Sir - would you prefer that?

MmeLindt · 05/08/2008 12:34

Makes me laugh, I have never heard it in a bored voice though.

twoGsinBuggerOff · 05/08/2008 12:34

i once did a trial shift as a madam in a legal brothel in sydney. that was an eye opener lemme tell you.

not really relevent but it came to mind so i spouted typed it anyway

LynetteScavo · 05/08/2008 12:35

Why was it only a trial shift - did you nat make a good madam? LOL.

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MehgaLegs · 05/08/2008 12:36

at you lot.

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LynetteScavo · 05/08/2008 12:37

Was that "madam" in a bared voice with no eye contact. Surely there is a title one can use to reply?

MmeLindt · 05/08/2008 12:39

Better than "here you are, love" or "hen"

lol at TwoGs. You cannot just post that info and no details.

NigellaTheOriginal · 05/08/2008 12:40

i'd like to be a madam

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MehgaLegs · 05/08/2008 12:40

Well, I was on the phone so no, there was no eye contact.

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MehgaLegs · 05/08/2008 12:42

I'd almost rather be a love than a fake madam.

Or a Mrs Mehgalegs (he had my name) or jsut "Yes, you're steroe is in, we can fit it this afternoon, don't worry that you have lost the paperwork we have it all on file and it will only take me a minute to find as I have your name and postcode."

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twoGsinBuggerOff · 05/08/2008 12:43

no i was rubbish
gave the girls free drinks from the bar, dressed in a tent to make damn sure it was clear i wasnt merchandise on offer, could barely restrain my self from yelling 'run, run for the hills!' to a nervous 'new girl' preparing for her first ever nights prostitution and had utter incredulity in my vice when opening the door to 'clients' , welcoming them and showing them to their seat (whereupon the girls would each go over and chat for a mo in turn and then i would go back and say;) 'so, see anyone you like the look of?' or words to that effect, before escorting them to the cashiers window to pay before going upstairs.

when i answered the ad, i thought 'gentlemans club' meant strip joint. (the post was described as 'receptionist') i figured sleaze meant good money and i needed to earn some rent fast.
the whole thing was really surreal, slightly thrilling, and a bit sad tbh.

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MehgaLegs · 05/08/2008 12:43

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LynetteScavo · 05/08/2008 12:43

I was called "love" by a teenager in a sandwhich shop, which I found odd.

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MehgaLegs · 05/08/2008 12:43

That wink was meant to be at the end of my last post.

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LynetteScavo · 05/08/2008 12:45

I think I would have grabbed that new girl and run for my life with her!

twoGsinBuggerOff · 05/08/2008 12:46

the girls were all advising me not to 'jump the fence' from receptionist to hooker (some of them eyeing me territorially) i was like 'no bloody way mate, dont worry about that!' which didnt endear me much i would wager...

yama · 05/08/2008 12:48

I was called 'doll' twice by the lady in the petrol station this morning.

I liked it. Was the way she said it.

twoGsinBuggerOff · 05/08/2008 12:49

sorry megs! have hijacked your thread... didnt mean to.

yes yes, madam is bizarre to be addressed as.
otoh, i take great delight in choosing 'lady' whenever it is offered in the drop down list of any website forms. thus the nice people at ocado, saisnburys online and several magazine subscriptions address me as Lady TwoG's which is pretty hilarious. well, it makes me smile anyway.

twoGsinBuggerOff · 05/08/2008 12:49

at doll

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MehgaLegs · 05/08/2008 12:51

no woories tGs - your story is far more exciting than my Halfords man . I am intrigued.

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MmeLindt · 05/08/2008 12:51

Does sound a bit sad TwoGs

Your name makes me think of G&Ts, bit early for that though

MehgaLegs
The call centre guy probably has to do the madam thing, I see what you mean. I hate the insincere saying of your name in every second sentence.

"Well, MrsLindt we will get your shopping out to your tomorrow. Would that be ok? Oh, you are going to be out? I can offer you another slot MrsLindt. That would be great MrsLindt. Ok fine. Well have a good day, MrsLindt.

I know my bloody name! You don't have to remind me!

mistypeaks · 05/08/2008 12:56

I don't like it either. I was once taken to a posh restaurant by my dad. I was about 17. Every sentence ended with Madam/sir. "What would madam care for?" "Steak tartare? Thank you madam" "Orange juice. certainly madam. thank you madam" Every time the guy laid down a plate/glass/fork or took something away it was " thank you madam". It was the longest most uncomfortable night of my life.

TenaciousG · 05/08/2008 13:19

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suedonim · 05/08/2008 14:00

'Madam' is the general term used in Nigeria when addressing a woman so I get called madam on a daily basis. Dh gets called 'Master' which he loathes, though has given up saying he'd prefer to be called by his name or even boss, as no one takes any notice. 12yo dd is called Baby or Sister or Princess.

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