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To go in my own garden at 8am with a 2 year old?

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crokky · 04/08/2008 08:41

I need to know if I have been a bad neighbour - honest answers please

So...we have a small garden overlooked by 5 other houses. After DS (age 2) and DD (4 months) went to bed last night, me and DH put together a plastic mini slide and cube thingy (about 1m x 1m plus slide, so not massive) for DS and put it in the garden. This morning DS saw it from the kitchen window and immediately said "SLIDE!! SHOES!!" and went to find his shoes to go outside. So I let him, it was 8am and he was not shrieking or anything like that. Cue naked neighbour man at bedroom window with very angry face. [Our baby wasn't crying or anything]. Am I supposed to stay indoors until a certain time?

And another question...am I being an idiot?...there are little mushrooms coming up through the grass (just plain grass in middle of garden, no other plants etc) - are they poisonous? Not planning on eating them or anything but just want to know as chidren rolling around in garden? We didn't have a garden at last place so am a total dummy with this sort of stuff.

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belgo · 04/08/2008 08:58

8am isn't early at all. If you live in a town then there is usually loads of noise from 7am. My girls often go into the garden at 7-7:30, but they don't make anything like the noise of the delivery trucks that start delivers from 6am to the establishment next door to us.

Chocolateteapot · 04/08/2008 08:58

After having a neighbour whose children used to wake me up everyday with the rumble, rumble of sit on tractor wheels at about 6.45 am, I have a rule of 9am for my own children. Unless it snows then 8am.

belgo · 04/08/2008 08:59

smurfgirl -that's why I had ear plugs when I've worked nights. You can't expect the world to be quiet during the day.

RusselBrussel · 04/08/2008 08:59

I think 8am is fine, provideed your ds was not screaming and shouting.
My dc often go into the garden at that time of day, and in the winter they will be out there at 6am if we have woken up to a nice layer of snow. (unfortunately we are in Surrey so that happens only once a year at most)

Re the mushrooms, unlikely to be poisonous but pick them just in case.

IllegallyBrunette · 04/08/2008 09:00

8am is fine imo.

EustaciaVye · 04/08/2008 09:00

It is a long time since I slept past 8am but I would say 8am on weekdays and 9am oln weekends is reasonable. I have changed my view on this in the last few months - I used to insist 9am weekdays and 10am weekends but my neighbour constantly hoovers his car at about 9pm with music blaring right outside DDs bedroom window so she finds it difficult to sleep.

youcannotbeserious · 04/08/2008 09:02

Gosh... Am feeling a bit at this thread.

Many years ago, Dh and I had a city centre apartment and his DDs used to come and stay...

They used to get up at 6am

I am pretty sure we used to wake up the whole apartment block!!!

ruddynorah · 04/08/2008 09:02

8am is fine. certainly where we are. i know the chump next door probably doesn't like dd and her friend across the road playing at 8am, but then he mows his lawn after their bed time so i don't worry about it.

FluffyMummy123 · 04/08/2008 09:02

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noonki · 04/08/2008 09:02

IMO 9am is reasonable,

8 a little early though seems totally fine when you have been up since six,

I am always ringing friends without kids at the weekend to find I wake them up at 10am plus... have forgotten what it is like not to have our cuddly alarmclocks...

naked man ugghhh ... I would wait till he is fully dressed and then go and talk to him - and come to a compromise,

mmelindt if brad pitt was the neighbour I would think it essential to get the kids in the garden at 6, to ensure more exposure

butwhybutwhy · 04/08/2008 09:02

I think 8am is completely reasonable.

ghosty · 04/08/2008 09:03

8am on a weekend is unreasonable but 8am on a Monday isn't.

FluffyMummy123 · 04/08/2008 09:03

Message withdrawn

merryberry · 04/08/2008 09:03

we do 8am weekdays, 9am saturday and 10am sunday. suits our neighbourhood from what i can see. would try and have a chat with angry man, diffuse situation, get working agreement going? if you can't agree, well i think 8am is ok overall anyway, it wo't be every day and he can use earplugs, possibly.

JuneBugJen · 04/08/2008 09:03

and your neighbour (loud git!), Eustacia, probably feels well within his rights to do that...

Which shows why, although we all think 8am is well within your rights, you should consider that he may not feel that way.

Perhaps have a chat with him.

VictorianSqualor · 04/08/2008 09:06

lol noonki 10am
I can't remember the last time I slept past 7, unless I'd been up all night and gone back to bed.

TheSoapEatersMum · 04/08/2008 09:07

I don't think 8am is too early- but then my ds gets up at 5 so the only 'too early' for me is before 5 lol

One of my stupid neighbours was mowing his lawn with a STRIMMER last night at 9.30pm! Still at least he wasn't naked! lol

thisisyesterday · 04/08/2008 09:09

I don't think it's too early at all. we're sometimes up at 6am. By 8am I am desperate to chuck them out in the garden1!!

we're also very overlooked. and to top it off our neighbours have very noisy conversations outside until all houirs at night, so I don't feel at all guilty about letting m,y kids out first thing in the morning

Mung · 04/08/2008 09:13

My neighbours had some huge grabber lorry putting bricks and gravel in the pick up bit this morning at 7.30...children playing at 8am is not unreasonable. I would do exactly the same at the weekend too. I really dont see a problem with it.

AbbyLou · 04/08/2008 09:16

8am perfectly reasonable. During the summer holidays we are out in the garden nearly all day every day. We go out when we want, it's our garden. My children are 3 1/2 and 15 months and they are not noisy, they just enjoy being outside.

whatdayisit · 04/08/2008 09:16

Oh dear, I must be really unpopular around here. I need to leave to get Dc's to childminder at 7:30am and we walk there, so although they're not overly noisy, there is definitely the sound of children in the street from 7:30-7:45. Surely by 8am there's lots of noise around with people off to work/school etc.

Much more inconsiderate is barbecues that go on past 8pm imo

newpup · 04/08/2008 09:19

8am is completely reasonable. I would say that if they are being really loud than maybe 9am but 8am is hardly the crack of dawn. Most noise restrictions are before 8am in any case.

pointydog · 04/08/2008 09:28

9 o'clock would be a better time.

VictorianSqualor · 04/08/2008 09:29

We had a phone call from some company (can't remember who) at 8am the other day, we'd been up a lot in the night with all the children and gone back to bed.
DP said he wasn't impressed with them ringing and they said '8am to 8pm are business hours' so 8am can't be that bad.

belgo · 04/08/2008 09:38

VS - we had delivery of our new garden slide at 11;15pm last year! And we needed the neighbours to help bring it in - fortunately we have lovely neighbours who always help us out. The delivery had been booked for 2pm - 4pm but the driver had gotton lost in Wallonia - how on earth can you get lost for 7 hours in Belgium?

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