AIBU to think its wrong for a group of 14 year old boys and girls to be camping out unsupervised.

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Ok so its not my problem, thank god but DD has said that some of her class mates are camping out on the hills at 14. I'm glad she didnt ask as I wouldn't let her do this. IABU

Ok

But you didn't have me for a mum

I think it's better that you know where they are and they don't have to lie to you to get a bit of freedom.
I also don't think that they will necessarily be shagging- I certainly wouldn't have been at that age.
Go on, trust them a little

I agree, squirdle. I know some lovely teenagers

MamaG, I was always out pissed with the boys from about 13 onwards. I didn't have sex until I was 16.

The girls out shagging that I was at school with were the ones whose parents thought they were nice girls but were really getting shafted in mummy and daddys bed on a sunday afternoon whilst their parents were at the garden centre.

No-one I hung around with out of school had sex before it was legal. We all had a few snogs but that was it.

I would echo what Squirdle said, the teens I know are blardy lovely, they even say hello to you in the street and ask you how you are and everything.

Actually reading this thread has made me change my mind, next time ds asks, I will probably say yes, after all he could be shagging down the local youf club on a Friday and I wouldnt know about it. And reading this has made me realise I actually DO trust him.

I went to a convent school and the quiet ones were definitely the worse

I think for me, it is because of my teenage years that I have such a great relationship with DS1. My parents were rubbish. Didn't take any interest in me and what I was doing. I could do what I liked and they didn't care. I didn't really drink and didn't go out having sex with everyone, but they wouldn't have known or cared if I was.

We take such an interest in DS1's life. But at the same time we respect his privacy. He is well loved, secure and happy. I wasn't!

I may be blowing my own trumpet here , but I think we have got it exactly right with DS1.....just don't all shout at me at once when DS2 becomes a teen in 8 years time and I am on here moaning

I don't think it's bad I went camping unsupervised at teh age of 11 with a bunch of friends. Our parents let us sleep out quite far from all our homes, just popping in to check we were ok. We got flooded out but it was an amazing thing. I think if you think 14 is not old enough then that's really over-protective.

Ha ha Squirdle, I know what you mean, really enjoying ds being a teen, it is great, not so sure I will think that when dd hits her teens (thankfully that is a bit of a way off)

I think my parents handled my teenage yrs very well, but then they were very liberal teacher types.
They gave me and my brothers and sisters lots of freedom to go clubbing, travelling, festivals, way before our friends could go.
As a result, they always knew where we were. We trusted ourselves and were very mature, too, and never brought any problems home

Stitch-venture scouts are not supervised as such. They were on Dartmoor on their own-camping in the middle of nowhere. I think check points were their only supervision.

I don't think all teenagers are shagging given the chance-I certainly wasn't. There is a lot of friendship between the sexes which is lovely-as in shared student houses.

only with an organised group, such as scouts etc.

only with an organised group, such as scouts etc.

oops, sorry

You are dreaming Squirdle if you don't think sex will be on the agenda very very soon, if not already. It doesn't mean that they are not lovely etc, it means that they are teenagers esp. boys who are rampant.

Rofl at rampant have to say no signs of 'rampant' here!

DP didn't have sex until he was about 18. Not all boys are destined to go out and start shagging as soon as they hit their teens.

I think you have to have a fair amount of confidence to be having sex early on-what you think and what you do are two different things in a lot of cases.

If these children are going to have sex at this age (which is possible, but not definite) they will do it wherever/whenever.

Sex is not confined tonight times and sleepovers!!

they are unlikely to want to have sex in front of each other

possibly

actually as a teenager maybe that isnt entirely true

My son did ten tors in a mixed group of 6 this year, all aged 14 and 15. AFAIC it utterly depends on the group of children and their interests. It may be inadvisable for some, and fine for others. Impossible to say from here.