Yeah I definitely am, but wanted to unload - no pun intended - vasectomy blues

[BalloonSlayer]

DH got his all-clear ("no sperm seen") from his vasectomy today.

Thing is, we had it booked 18m ago, when we got pissed, messed up and conceived DS2.

So it has really brought it home to me. Now I am looking at DS2 thinking: if we had got our act together you wouldn't be here.

It horrifies me.

I keep looking at DS2 and wanting to howl at the moon: "but you might not exiiiiiist !!!"

How sad is that?

Perhaps a nice latex-free shag will cheer me up .

Heehee - got 2 dcs. Won't let dh near me without a condom until we get the all clear!

I'm a strong believer in fate. You had ds2 because he was meant to be, dh got his all clear from his Vasectomy because that was meant to be too. I have a ds2 (suprise 3rd child, we were stopping at two) who was the result of a pissed shag and I look at him in awe as well thinking he would not have been here had I not been drunk. He is meant to be and I tell him now (he's 6 months old) that he's the best suprise I ever had.

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both of my children were "accidents" i prefer to use the term serendipity. I thank God for them every day. As i am sure you do - i often think this too - "blimey, if we hadn;t have got together at that particular time/day etc" then DDs might not exist or might even be DSs - now that messes with my mind

DD is a result of "planned the snip but didn't get round to it" also. I really do think that some things are meant to be. My mum died when I was 5 months pregnant with DD having assumed that I would never have a daughter (had two boys) and I do view her as a bit special because of that!

DD did have the snip when she was 2 weeks old though

DS3 was the one we shouldn't/wouldn't have had if we hadn't had been; having a particularly fantastic holiday, having recently moved to a particularly lovely new home, enjoying the relative freedom of both our older children reaching the age when you can regain your life a bit more and both escaping with our lives intact on 7.7.05 London bombings when both DH and I were on the tube in seperate parts of London when the bombs went off!

We were having a "glad to be alive" kind of summer and DS3 was the result....DH's vasectomy followed tout suite!

I do have thoughts about a 4th .....but no it isn't going to happen

How wonderful that new life came out of that awful day.

That's a lovely thing, uptomyeyes, OLKN is right, how marvellous!

I feel my DS2 is marvellous as well. I had this feeling that he just wanted to be born - I guess this is why I feel odd that I now know there are to be no more babies.

Ever since I have been, erm, sexually active, pregnancy has been lurking in the back of my mind whenever I've had sex. Hoping not to get pregnant, hoping to get pregnant, being pregnant, hoping not to miscarry, trying to bring on labour, being post natal . . . Now I suddenly feel at a bit of a loss. Sex will just be about - sex. How strange

Mind you this attitude is what made me make DH delay his vasectomy till I felt ok about it, hence DS2

Pardon my ramblings - guess I am just a control freak.

Wonderful to hear of all the other unplanned happy events!

Balloonslayer thank goodness I'm not the only one who thinks this. Ds5 was the result of the waiting so long for the snip so we'll be a bit slack and see what happens senario. I often look at him while he's asleep and think'I'm glad the doctor took so long to get the appt for Daddy'.
Though I feel a flash of sadness sometimes to think he is my 5th and final one